All posts tagged: likability

“Lethality over likability”: Military graduations boost political theater

“Lethality over likability”: Military graduations boost political theater

Across this year’s service academy commencement season, senior Trump administration figures used graduation ceremonies at West Point, the Coast Guard Academy and the Naval Academy to deliver a coordinated set of messages about military culture, institutional identity and national strength, turning traditionally ceremonial milestones into politically charged platforms. At the U.S. Coast Guard Academy, President Donald Trump delivered about an hour of rambling remarks that mixed traditional commencement praise with extended political framing around national security, maritime enforcement, and immigration policy. Speaking in New London, Connecticut, he described the graduating class as part of what he called a broader national “resurgence,” tying their service to border security and ongoing geopolitical tensions. While the speech began in standard ceremonial form, it repeatedly shifted into unscripted commentary about the cadets themselves, including their physical appearance and fitness. At one point, Trump singled out graduates for praise of their physiques and described the class in terms that emphasized their attractiveness and strength, calling attention to “good-looking” cadets in a manner that drew attention in press coverage. He also …

If Someone Constantly Tells You These 11 Things, They Probably Really Want You To Like Them

If Someone Constantly Tells You These 11 Things, They Probably Really Want You To Like Them

Almost everyone craves human connection. Some researchers even believe we’re hard-wired for it. But it’s not always easy to tell who is interested in connecting with us, and who wants us to like them back. There are certain words and phrases that can help you determine whether someone wants you to like them, and while they can feel cloying or disingenuous when someone is being insincere or has bad intentions, it’s pretty easy to tell the difference. So pay attention for phrases like these, because when someone says them genuinely, they probably would love for you to like them.  If someone constantly tells you these 11 things, they probably really want you to like them 1. ‘I appreciate you’ VGStockstudio | Shutterstock Someone might say they appreciate you in response to you helping them out with a task, and that’s always nice to hear. But they might also say it just because they’re happy to know you.  When used consistently, this phrase also shows that someone recognizes you for you, along with whatever contributions you offer …

11 Conversation Mistakes That Instantly Make You Less Likable

11 Conversation Mistakes That Instantly Make You Less Likable

Most people assume likability in conversation comes down to charm or quick wit. In reality, it usually comes from something much simpler: whether the other person feels comfortable talking with you. People tend to remember how a conversation felt long after they forget the exact details of what was said. Social psychology research consistently shows that warmth, attentiveness, and respect matter more than intelligence or cleverness when people form impressions. Unfortunately, certain conversational habits quietly undermine those qualities. They may seem small in the moment, but they can change the entire tone of an interaction almost immediately. The good news is that once you recognize these patterns, they’re surprisingly easy to adjust. These are 11 conversation mistakes that instantly make you less likable 1. Interrupting before someone finishes their thought ALPA PROD / Shutterstock Cutting someone off, even if you’re excited or trying to help, signals that your words matter more than theirs. Interruptions are one of the fastest ways to make someone feel dismissed. Many people interrupt because they’re eager to contribute, not because …

People Who Are Amazing At Small Talk Use These 12 Phrases On A Regular Basis

People Who Are Amazing At Small Talk Use These 12 Phrases On A Regular Basis

It’s easy to say, “I’m not good at small talk” and simply try to ignore it, Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit argues that small talk isn’t an innate skill, but rather a learned behavior. That’s actually great news, because it means we can study the phrases used by people who are amazing at small talk and start crafting phrases and questions to perfectly suit any situation. Whether you’re talking with a loved one or making small talk with a stranger, having a few handy phrases in your back pocket to use during small talk can help. The more you study, the better you get at honing in on the practice, but for now, consider using one of these phrases people who are good at small talk always use. You can cultivate better connections, relate to people more effectively, and spark community in even the most mundane interactions. People who are amazing at small talk use these 12 phrases on a regular basis 1. ‘Tell me more about that’ Pics Five | Shutterstock.com Making …