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As I Got Older, I Realized There’s A Lingering Kind Of Loneliness No One Prepares You For

As I Got Older, I Realized There’s A Lingering Kind Of Loneliness No One Prepares You For

Published by Jenni Sidey

The hardest part about moving from California to Nevada was springing the news on my elderly mother. I worried that it would be a tough sell. Mom liked her assisted living community, even though their services were getting expensive and her advanced Parkinson’s Disease would soon require a higher level of care. I had recently retired from my law enforcement career. My years as police chief meant that everyone in town knew me. As much as I loved the community, my true nature is introverted, and the thought of complete anonymity in a new town appealed to me. Also, my wife grew up in our small town and yearned for change and new experiences. I rehearsed in my mind all the reasons for the move. I explained to Mom that my son wanted to attend UNLV (University of Nevada, Las Vegas) to study computer science. And that several of our retired friends lived in Nevada, enjoying the endless amenities of Las Vegas and the financial benefit of no state income tax. “We’ve already found an …

People Who Rarely Feel Bored When They’re Alone Usually Share These 11 Traits

People Who Rarely Feel Bored When They’re Alone Usually Share These 11 Traits

Published by Jenni Sidey

I am the type of person who values my alone time. I have hobbies like reading and writing that are done best on my own time. Other people can be distracting. Sometimes, having a moment to yourself can feel like the perfect recharge. Some people are drawn to others. Being alone doesn’t feel as comfortable as being surrounded by others. This isn’t always an option. There are moments when we need to feel comfortable in silence. Time spent alone can be good for us. People who enjoy spending time alone and rarely feel bored may have specific personality traits. These traits allow them to feel comfortable in many circumstances, including when they are on their own. People who rarely feel bored when they’re alone usually share these 11 extra special traits 1. They are creative mimagephotography via Canva Studies show that creative people enjoy downtime more than the average person. When left alone with their minds, they let one idea turn into another. They become taken with their creativity. Whether it’s something simple like letting …

I Couldn’t Figure Out Why I Felt So Lonely — Until I Realized Sometimes There Isn’t A Reason

I Couldn’t Figure Out Why I Felt So Lonely — Until I Realized Sometimes There Isn’t A Reason

Published by Jenni Sidey

I will be the first one to acknowledge that I know how blessed and fortunate I am for the life I have. I have great health. Moreover, I have a tight group of family and friends who love and value me. I have a career I’m proud of. I have character traits most would wish they could have. And I know I’m loved.  But having all of these things doesn’t stop me from feeling alone. I couldn’t figure out why I felt so lonely until I realized sometimes there isn’t a reason. I can’t always describe why I feel alone or what causes this sudden wave to crash over me. I could be having the best day ever, full of laughter and fulfillment, and then the moment I crawl into my dark bedroom, I feel instantly depressed and can’t control the weird feeling inside my chest. What’s more, I’ve learned that I need to leave my house at least once a day, just so I don’t feel depressed. Even when my anxiety has me confined to my bedroom, I know …

Women Who Have Felt Alone Most Of Their Adult Lives Often Develop These 11 Specific Traits

Women Who Have Felt Alone Most Of Their Adult Lives Often Develop These 11 Specific Traits

Published by Jenni Sidey

While feeling misunderstood and alone in life can often spark complex feelings of stress, rejection, and emotional pain, having to get better acquainted with your own company can be a superpower. As you get older, learning to deal with things on your own can be an opportunity to gain more fine-tuned resilience, self-reliance, and awareness than you otherwise might. Women who have felt alone most of their adult lives tend to develop certain beautiful, specific traits as they get older because they’re not seeking validation or attention from superficial relationships, but rather leaning into experiences they know will bring value. It’s a learning curve to battle feeling misunderstood, but with the right tools and intentions, it can blossom into something incredibly fulfilling. Women who have felt alone most of their adult lives often develop these specific traits 1. They’re authentic and unconventional OlgaLucky | Shutterstock.com People who’ve had to look internally for validation and spend lots of time alone are more likely to boast authenticity. Their lifestyles and hobbies might be unconventional, but they live …

The Woman Who’s Used To Being Alone Makes The Strongest Life Partner: 4 Reasons Why

The Woman Who’s Used To Being Alone Makes The Strongest Life Partner: 4 Reasons Why

Published by Jenni Sidey

For a long time, people assumed the woman who spent too much time alone must be lonely or missing something from her life, but that assumption misses the point entirely. A woman who’s used to being alone learned how to build a full life on her own and has developed a subtle type of strength, the type that comes from knowing she can stand on her own two feet if she ever has to. When a woman like that chooses a partner, it’s not because she needs someone to fill a gap. It’s because she genuinely wants to share the life she’s already created for herself. That independence tends to make her a more regulated, thoughtful partner — someone who brings loyalty and emotional maturity into the relationship. Here are 4 reasons why the woman who’s used to being alone makes the strongest partner: 1. The woman who’s used to being alone has learned not to depend on anyone else FOTOGRAFÍA EDITORIAL / Unsplash Does she want or need something? This girl will get it …

If A Person Still Does Any Of These 11 Odd Things, They Likely Grew Up Without Many Friends

If A Person Still Does Any Of These 11 Odd Things, They Likely Grew Up Without Many Friends

Published by Jenni Sidey

Friendships, in a world that overemphasizes romantic love and career success, are completely underrated. Not only do they bring joy and happiness to our lives, but they also regularly boost our physical, mental, and psychological well-being, as many studies shared by the American Psychological Association suggest. On the other side of that coin, people who grew up without friends and struggled to find their place deal with an equally powerful kind of social pain. It’s this feeling of exclusion and ostracism that often leads to worsened well-being, lowered self-esteem, and even poor daily routines characterized by things like doomscrolling on their phones and spending a lot of time alone. If a person still does any of these odd things, they likely grew up without many friends and now find themselves coping in strange ways, even with a few friendships and a community to lean on as an adult. If a person still does any of these 11 odd things, they likely grew up without many friends 1. They rehearse and replay conversations in their heads Perfect …

That Slightly Sick, Restless Feeling After Scrolling Isn’t Random: The 3 Psychological Reasons Behind It

That Slightly Sick, Restless Feeling After Scrolling Isn’t Random: The 3 Psychological Reasons Behind It

Published by Jenni Sidey

Back in the days of the cavemen, we needed interpersonal relationships to survive. We depended on others to protect us, collect food, and seek shelter. Without others, we would die. While this isn’t the case today, a lack of social connection can still have devastating effects on our physical and mental health. In the past, the average person stated they had three close friends. Today, however, the most common answer to that same question is “zero.” While there may be a number of factors at play here, it is interesting to note that these trends started around the same time as our social media use increased. Could there be a connection? And if so, what is it? In a recent study, 1787 young adults filled out questionnaires to determine their daily and weekly internet usage patterns. The study found that participants who scrolled social media for more than two hours a day were twice as likely to feel sick, restless, and socially isolated as those who spent fewer than 30 minutes using it per day. Furthermore, those …

Women Who Feel More At Peace When They’re Alone Usually Have These 10 Distinct Personality Traits

Women Who Feel More At Peace When They’re Alone Usually Have These 10 Distinct Personality Traits

Published by Jenni Sidey

Women who feel more at peace when they are alone have distinct personalities, which more extroverted people don’t always understand at first. A study of introversion, solitude, and happiness posed a novel idea: “Couldn’t the quiet bliss of some tea and a good book rival the lurid excess of an all-night party? Perhaps introverts are equally happy, but keep it inside, less available for all to see.” Once you know more about the benefits of solitude, you start to understand why some women feel much more at peace alone. It helps make them some of the strongest and most genuine people you will ever meet. Women who feel more at peace when they’re alone usually have these 10 distinct personality traits: 1. They don’t allow toxic people in their lives BearFotos via Shutterstock These women are better than most people at cutting people out of their lives with no hesitation. They will not associate with those who are toxic and negative. Such women would rather be alone than waste their precious energy socializing with people who …

Retired Men Usually Sit In Silence More Often At Home Because Of These 11 Specific Reasons

Retired Men Usually Sit In Silence More Often At Home Because Of These 11 Specific Reasons

Published by Jenni Sidey

Retirement is something many people look forward to after decades of having to work hard. It’s the period of life where you’re finally able to enjoy the fruits of your labor. From the outside looking in, it sounds like pure freedom, but for a lot of people, especially retired men, the quiet that suddenly fills their days may be hard to reckon with at times. He starts spending more time at home, just sitting with himself in complete silence. It’s not that he’s on his phone or even watching TV — he’s simply just sitting there. While it may seem as if something is inherently wrong, the silence isn’t automatically a bad thing. Whether it’s enjoying not being needed or thinking about traveling, retired men usually sit in silence more often at home because of these specific reasons. There’s nothing wrong with silence; in fact, silence is good for both our well-being and even the relationships we cultivate with others. For a lot of retired men, the quiet becomes their new default, because after so …

People Who Grew Up As Loners Often Have These 11 Habits As Adults

People Who Grew Up As Loners Often Have These 11 Habits As Adults

Published by Jenni Sidey

Not everyone is the kind of person who can walk into a room, meet new people, and make instant friends. And not everyone has the desire to surround themselves with a large group of individuals. But being a loner doesn’t mean someone is lonely, it just means they prefer to spend time alone instead of in the company of others. As kids, they may have acted a certain way, but people who grew up as loners often have specific habits as adults. Their friends might tease them, but loners live by their own set of rules. From refusing to conform to the “norm” to avoiding social interaction at all costs, loners don’t have the same mentality as the average person. So, it goes wihtout saying that they likely develop certain behaviors as young people that follow them into adulthood. People who grew up as loners often have these 11 habits as adults 1. Preferring solitude to recharge PeopleImages | Shutterstock As much as a loner loves their friends and family, they don’t want to be …