All posts tagged: Desire

Women’s desire for wealthy partners drops when they have more economic power

Women’s desire for wealthy partners drops when they have more economic power

A recent study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences suggests that what people look for in a romantic partner changes depending on their financial situation and the broader economic equality between men and women. The findings provide evidence that the traditional tendency for women to prefer wealthier partners might fade as women gain more economic power. This adaptability points to a high level of flexibility in human romantic desires. For decades, scientists have debated why men and women often prioritize different traits in romantic partners. In many cultures, women tend to prefer partners with financial resources. Men tend to prioritize youth and physical beauty. Some scientists argue that these differences stem from human evolution. This perspective suggests that ancient survival needs shaped modern minds. Because ancestral women faced the physical demands of pregnancy and nursing, they may have evolved to seek partners who could provide material resources. Other scientists suggest these preferences are the result of cultural expectations. This perspective proposes that the traditional division of labor between men as providers …

Arlo Parks, Ambiguous Desire review – Innocent yearnings for connection in the club

Arlo Parks, Ambiguous Desire review – Innocent yearnings for connection in the club

Get the inside track from Roisin O’Connor with our free weekly music newsletter Now Hear This Get our free music newsletter Now Hear This Get our free music newsletter Now Hear This As a sensitive, young artist best known for her poetic lyrics, shy-girl vocals and gentle indie-pop sounds, Arlo Parks didn’t seem to be on track for a Brat summer. But it turns out she’s been partying hard since the release of her second album, 2023’s My Soft Machine, and has flooded her third record, Ambiguous Desire, with house, techno and UK garage beats. Embedded in these songs are tales of strobe lights, DJ decks, gin, chips and hand-rolled cigarettes “in the guts of New York”. The tense, murky blur of bass and click-tap-rattle percussion contrasts powerfully with the sweetness of her voice, singing of her innocent yearning for connection. Born Anaïs Oluwatoyin Estelle Marinho in 2000, Parks felt like an outsider while growing up in west London. She once described a high-school experience of “feeling like that Black kid who couldn’t dance for …

Merz sparks backlash over desire to send Syrians home – POLITICO

Merz sparks backlash over desire to send Syrians home – POLITICO

But, he added, “it is clear that once the civil war ended, the time for return has come and the grounds for protection cease to apply.” He declined to provide specific numbers. Approximately 1.23 million people of Syrian origin were registered in Germany at the end of 2024. Of those, 246,320 had acquired German citizenship, leaving close to a million Syrian nationals in Germany at risk of being affected by the proposed large-scale return policy. ‘Indignity and anger’ While the collapse of Bashar al-Assad’s autocratic regime in late 2024 sparked jubilation among large segments of the Syrian diaspora across Europe, many remained cautious about the prospect of returning home. In the first 10 months of 2025 just 6,502 Syrian nationals voluntarily left Germany, according to figures published by Süddeutsche Zeitung. “The majority want to wait and see how the situation develops — both with the regime and the transitional government — before taking the decision to return,” said Antonios Hazim, who has been in Germany since 2016 and volunteers with a Syrian community organization. “The …

The Feminine as Structural Problem

The Feminine as Structural Problem

Twelve years ago, I committed to a life in philosophy—knowing it meant poverty and prolonged adolescence. Years of it. Maybe forever, given the job market’s generosity toward philosophers! And my commitment hasn’t wavered. How could it? Philosophy does something almost nothing else can: whether I’m reading, writing, teaching, or lost in dialogue, it lifts me beyond the bounds of identity—beyond being a grad student with no real job, Iranian, cisgender, immigrant, daughter, sister—beyond every label pinned to me. But not in an erasing way; I am still each of them, yet for a moment, I become something more.   What strikes me about my ongoing commitment to philosophy is that the deeper I go, the more feminist I become! Yet my experience of academic philosophy has largely disclosed the opposite: a discipline that solemnly declares its devotion to openness proves curiously unsettled by me as a woman—and, more precisely, by my perceived femininity. This discomfort is not a private or isolated experience unique to me; rather, the incompatibility of femininity with intellect appears to be deeply embedded in …

Mexican Rodeo Film ‘Jaripeo’ Shows Queer Subconscious, Hidden Desire

Mexican Rodeo Film ‘Jaripeo’ Shows Queer Subconscious, Hidden Desire

Cowboy hats, jeans, a lot of alcohol and bull riding combine into a special mix of hypermasculine rituals at Mexican rodeo shows. But underneath also lies hidden queer desire, as we find out in Jaripeo, a film that world premiered at Sundance and now screens at the 23rd edition of the Copenhagen International Documentary Film Festival, CPH:DOX. Co-directors Efraín Mojica and Rebecca Zweig mix cinema vérité, Super 8 footage, and stylized scenes into a cocktail where machismo and queerness come together. “We meet macho cowboys who have come out of the closet and a flamboyant diva who effortlessly takes the bull by the horns,” notes the CPH:DOX website, calling Jaripeo “a sensual exploration of performative masculinity, secret desires, and the longings that breathe beneath the surface of a rodeo show.” Cinematography for the film was handled by Josué Eber Morales and Gerardo Guerra, editing by Analía Goethals, and the sound by Maria Rojas. Music is courtesy of Emilia Ezeta and Marton Radics. The co-directors and producer Sarah Strunin spoke to an appreciative Copenhagen audience after a screening early this week. …

Narcissistic Isolation: Echo’s Desire | Psychology Today

Narcissistic Isolation: Echo’s Desire | Psychology Today

One day, when she observed Narcissus wandering in the pathless woods, she loved him and she followed him… Oh, how she longed to make her passion known! —(Ovid, The Metamorphosis) This passage from the Greek myth of Narcissus presents the question: how do we see the other if we do not see ourselves? These ancient stories are still relevant as they reveal the archetypal patterns of human beings. The characters portrayed are timeless, and their struggles and challenges are ones we can identify with. Just think of the narcissists you know and reflect on how hard it is to be close or to feel known and valued by them. Narcissus and Echo are the primary characters in the classic Greek tragedy enacting this issue. They have relevance due to the increase in narcissism with its singularity, isolation, and inability to be intimate. The themes of the Greek myth illustrate one-sided love turning to psychological and physiological deterioration, and death. These mythological figures demonstrate parts of the personality applicable beyond the strictures of gender and binary …

Virtual parenting games may boost desire for real children, study finds

Virtual parenting games may boost desire for real children, study finds

Declining birth rates present a demographic challenge for nations across the globe, particularly in East Asia. A new study published in Frontiers in Psychology suggests that playing life simulation video games may influence a player’s desire to have children in the real world. The research indicates that the emotional bonds formed with virtual characters can serve as a psychological pathway to shaping reproductive attitudes. Societies such as China are currently experiencing a transition marked by persistently low fertility rates. Young adults aged 18 to 35 often report a reluctance to marry and bear children. This hesitation is frequently attributed to high economic costs associated with housing and education. It is also linked to a phenomenon researchers call “risk consciousness.” This mindset involves anxiety regarding the potential loss of personal freedom and the financial burdens of parenthood. In this environment, digital entertainment has become a primary venue for social interaction and relaxation. Some scholars have argued that online activities might replace real-world relationships. This substitution could theoretically weaken the motivation to start a family. However, other …

Andrew Huberman explains attachment and desire

Andrew Huberman explains attachment and desire

PsyPost’s PodWatch highlights interesting clips from recent podcasts related to psychology and neuroscience. In a recent episode of the Huberman Lab podcast, released on Thursday, February 12, Dr. Andrew Huberman explores the biological and psychological roots of human connection. The episode, titled “Essentials: The Science of Love, Desire & Attachment,” examines how early life experiences and specific brain functions create the feelings of romance. Huberman breaks down the complex science behind why humans bond with certain people and how relationships either succeed or fail over time. During the first five minutes of the broadcast, Huberman explains that adult romantic styles often mirror the emotional bond a person had with their caregivers as a toddler. He references the famous “Strange Situation Task” developed by psychologist Mary Ainsworth in the 1980s. In this experiment, researchers observed how children reacted when their parents left a room and subsequently returned. Based on these reactions, researchers categorized children into groups such as securely attached or anxious-avoidant. Huberman notes that these early classifications are strong predictors of how individuals will behave …

Love Stayed, Desire Didn’t. Now What?

Love Stayed, Desire Didn’t. Now What?

One of the most painful dilemmas couples face is this: One partner still wants sex, intimacy, and erotic connection—and the other doesn’t. Or can’t. Or no longer recognizes themselves in that realm. Sometimes the mismatch was always there. One partner was never particularly interested in sex, but it was manageable, ignorable, or deferred. Other times, something shifted: menopause, illness, trauma, aging, exhaustion, an existential change in life perspective. And sometimes, one person kept growing emotionally, erotically, or sensually, without making that growth contingent on their partner’s participation. Now they’ve arrived somewhere new, and the relationship hasn’t caught up. What makes this dilemma so excruciating is that it isn’t about bad intentions. No one is doing anything wrong. And yet something essential is no longer shared. Something you may have assumed would always be there. Desire is the willingness to engage your lover; it’s not the same as arousal. And it cannot be earned, demanded, or extracted by commitment. It responds to aliveness, safety, truth, and freedom. When those conditions change, desire often does too. That …

GMA’s Michael Strahan reveals a desire for time away from demanding job: ‘can I do it?’

GMA’s Michael Strahan reveals a desire for time away from demanding job: ‘can I do it?’

During Good Morning America‘s airing on February 5, TV star Michael Strahan teased his desire to take a long break away from his demanding job. He got candid after the team aired a segment featuring a young traveler who quit his corporate job in finance to see the world on a minimal budget of five dollars per stay, and two dollars per meal. Robin Roberts mentioned that one of the show’s producers took a year off to explore too. © Getty ImagesGeorge shared his desire for time off She explained: “Denise and her husband, who put everything in storage [and] traveled the world for about a year…[they] documented it and now she’s back…” George Stephanopoulos interjected: “Back to great jobs too,” as everyone laughed. Michael quickly inquired: “Are we allowed to do that? Come back to this job? Hey, hey, let me know.” George remarked: “Will you do it on five dollars a day?” Michael responded: “Nah, not that amount…five dollars a day…that won’t work…I need to splurge more than that.” © Getty ImagesHe wants to take a …