All posts tagged: emotional health

When Someone’s Life Is Falling Apart, They’ll Often Do These 10 Things Before Reaching Their Breaking Point

When Someone’s Life Is Falling Apart, They’ll Often Do These 10 Things Before Reaching Their Breaking Point

Published by Jenni Sidey

There are times in life when it feels like the world is ending and there’s nothing we can do about it. While some people can feel themselves changing into someone they don’t recognize, others might build up to this realization. Because whether it’s a change in sleep patterns or a feeling of hopelessness, when someone’s life is falling apart, they’ll often do these things before reaching their breaking point. For a person on the outside looking in, seeing someone they love go through this is heartbreaking. But when they’re able to recognize certain indicators of a negative change, it’s easier for them to offer support. And for the person going through this difficult time, they can begin to look inward to help themselves start thriving again. When someone’s life is falling apart, they’ll often do these 10 things before reaching their breaking point 1. Not getting enough sleep Gladskikh Tatiana | Shutterstock Sleep is the most important thing for our bodies, and it’s recommended we get between 7-9 hours of it each night, so it …

People In Midlife Say These 3 Tiny Habits Helped Them Finally Stop Being So Hard On Themselves | Christine Arylo

People In Midlife Say These 3 Tiny Habits Helped Them Finally Stop Being So Hard On Themselves | Christine Arylo

Published by Jenni Sidey

You know how to be a good friend and you give others the kind of grace you would never think twice about offering. But turn that same love toward yourself and something shifts. Suddenly it feels selfish, uncomfortable, or just wrong.  The truth is, being a good friend to yourself is not selfish at all. The more you fill yourself up, the more you actually have to give. And one of the biggest reasons people in midlife say they struggled for so long is simple: they never learned how to give themselves permission to do what they actually needed.  The next time you feel overwhelmed, depleted, or just off, try asking yourself these three questions honestly. If the answer to any of them is no, here is what to do about it. People in midlife say these 3 tiny habits helped them finally stop being so hard on themselves: 1. They started asking themselves, “Am I actually happy right now?” One tiny habit people in midlife say changed everything was simply pausing to ask themselves …

Women Who Always Seem To Be The ‘Emotional Support Friend’ Usually Had 11 Experiences Normal People Didn’t Have

Women Who Always Seem To Be The ‘Emotional Support Friend’ Usually Had 11 Experiences Normal People Didn’t Have

Published by Jenni Sidey

Many women, who already take on emotional burdens and obligations in their romantic relationships, may also adopt the “therapist friend” role if they’re sensitive, empathetic, and emotionally intelligent. Even in good-intentioned conversations and with truly lovely friends, sometimes it feels impossible to adopt this role, especially if you seem to have the “wisdom” of reflection and perspective, compared to other people in your life. Women who always seem to be the “emotional support friend” usually have experiences normal people didn’t have. Of course, these conversations and supportive behaviors are sometimes fulfilling and bonding, but most times, these women end up feeling exhausted and drained from having boundaries chronically overstepped. Women who always seem to be the ‘emotional support friend’ usually had 11 experiences normal people didn’t have 1. They were forced to mature early Gladskikh Tatiana | Shutterstock While emotional intelligence and independence do tend to feed into a greater well-being in adulthood, for children who were forced to build these skills from parentification too early, chances are they struggle with finding a balance. They’re the …

I Didn’t Realize These 3 Habits Were Fueling My Codependency Until I Finally Faced Them

I Didn’t Realize These 3 Habits Were Fueling My Codependency Until I Finally Faced Them

Published by Jenni Sidey

The late lecturer and author Earnie Larsen defines codependency as “self-defeating, learned behaviors that cause a diminished capacity to initiate or participate in loving relationships.” Codependent people will typically place their worth in others and only feel “full” when they communicate with the person they are codependent on. Codependency can be emotionally draining for both parties involved. The codependent person doesn’t want to be codependent, and the person being depended on loses a lot of freedom, too. I didn’t realize that I struggled with codependency until about four months ago, when someone pointed out a few habits of mine that were fueling it. I knew I was dependent on others, but I didn’t know it was called codependency. But having a word for it has helped me in my journey to breaking my codependency. I didn’t realize these habits were fueling my codependency until I finally faced them: 1. I was unhealthily dependent on others One of the most common ways to combat codependency is to attend psychotherapy. Seeing a therapist allowed me to voice …

If You Notice These 11 Details In Someone’s Home, They’re Probably Struggling Emotionally

If You Notice These 11 Details In Someone’s Home, They’re Probably Struggling Emotionally

Published by Jenni Sidey

Creating sustainable change, protecting your emotional well-being, and setting yourself up for success all rely on healthy habits and personalized routines, as a study from the American Journal of Lifestyle Medicine explains. From cleaning routines to hygiene, and even decorating a living space, these are the things that actually make a difference in our general well-being. That’s part of the reason why small details and mundane habits can also often be “red flags” for how someone’s feeling internally. Even if it’s clutter or unopened mail, if you notice these details in someone’s home, they’re probably struggling emotionally. They might seem like unimportant things to someone who feels happy and emotionally regulated, but they’re more influential and telling to someone with a lot going on inside. If you notice these 11 details in someone’s home, they’re probably struggling emotionally 1. Stacks of comfort movies or books Krakenimages.com | Shutterstock Rewatching the same movies and TV shows over and over, coined our “comfort shows,” is often a means of seeking control and instant safety when we’re feeling emotionally …

People Who Didn’t Learn These 11 Life Lessons In Their 30s Will Likely Struggle In Their 40s & Beyond

People Who Didn’t Learn These 11 Life Lessons In Their 30s Will Likely Struggle In Their 40s & Beyond

Published by Jenni Sidey

Many people believe that your life ends after your 20s. That couldn’t be further from the truth. When I entered my 30s, I felt more comfortable in my skin. It allowed me to grow as an individual, while also staying rooted in what I learned from the previous decade. In your 30s, there is a lot to learn. Many of us were settling into our careers and taking on more responsibilities. This decade is when you realize what is truly important. There are certain life lessons we pick up along the way. If someone missed the memo on these, they will likely struggle into their 40s and beyond. It can be hard to gain these skills later in life. Your 30s are the best time to sort through what matters and what doesn’t. It can be difficult to move forward if these lessons are not learned by this period in your life. People who didn’t learn these 11 life lessons in their 30s will likely struggle in their 40s & beyond: 1. They don’t prioritize their …