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8 Habits Kids Whose Parents Almost Never Say I Love You Carry Into Adulthood

8 Habits Kids Whose Parents Almost Never Say I Love You Carry Into Adulthood

Published by Jenni Sidey

Growing up with parents who never say they love you can have a tremendous impact on the way children understand affection and emotional connection. Even when parents care deeply, a lack of verbal reassurance can leave kids wondering how to recognize love and express it themselves. As some people get older, they bring habits into their relationships that stemmed from their experiences with their parents. While everyone’s childhood is different, certain patterns can definitely develop when love isn’t openly spoken. Kids whose parents almost never tell them they love them tend to have these habits as adults: 1. They feel uncomfortable receiving compliments bbernard | Shutterstock Children who grow up without hearing words of affection might have a hard time knowing what to do when someone says something nice about them. A simple compliment can feel uncomfortable when they’re not used to receiving that kind of attention. They might laugh it off or change the subject right away. When someone calls them beautiful or praises their accomplishments, they assume the person is just being polite. …

7 Habits Kids Raised By Parents Who Encouraged Them To Play Sports Carry Into Adulthood

7 Habits Kids Raised By Parents Who Encouraged Them To Play Sports Carry Into Adulthood

Published by Jenni Sidey

Playing sports at a young age teaches kids a lot more than how to throw a ball or score a goal. When parents encourage their children to get involved in sports, they’re also helping them develop many healthy habits that they often stick with long after the games are over. Not every kid who plays sports grows up to be an athlete, and not every lesson comes from winning. What matters is showing up and learning how to follow guidance or bounce back after a loss. These experiences often carry over as children become adults in ways they don’t even realize. Kids who were raised by parents who encouraged them to play sports often stick with these healthy habits as adults: 1. They don’t give up Zamrznuti tonovi | Shutterstock Kids who played sports learned pretty early that not every game was going to go their way. They might have lost or missed a shot, but they still had to get back out there and try again. One bad day didn’t automatically make them bad …

People Raised In Small Towns Usually Have 8 Common Sense Habits That Big City Kids Lack

People Raised In Small Towns Usually Have 8 Common Sense Habits That Big City Kids Lack

Published by Jenni Sidey

Small-town living is usually unfairly stereotyped as unsophisticated. The truth is, growing up in rural areas gives kids a bunch of useful life skills that city kids may never master. There are so many ways being a kid in a small town is amazing. There’s a sense of freedom and community that isn’t as stifling as their cosmopolitan peers think. Sure, it’s not quite as glamorous, but these kids are often raised by a whole village, which makes their experiences more diverse than most people assume. Common sense habits small-town kids mastered that big city kids often lack: 1. They owned their mistakes because someone was always watching  Sergey Novikov | Shutterstock It’s a whole lot easier to be anonymous in a big city than it is in a small town. When everyone knows who you are and who your parents are, you quickly learn to own up to your mistakes because if you don’t, someone will rat you out. Everybody knows everybody, so word gets around quickly. Even if you say the wrong thing to …

Kids Raised By Parents Who Made Them Work For Everything Carry 8 Advantages Into Adulthood

Kids Raised By Parents Who Made Them Work For Everything Carry 8 Advantages Into Adulthood

Published by Jenni Sidey

Kids who had to work for what they wanted can carry those lessons into adulthood. Teaching kids to value effort prepares them for life on their own.  Parents who give their kids age-appropriate responsibilities and room to face challenges, while still offering support, give them a chance to learn through experience. With that balance, kids can grow up with advantages that last long after they’ve left home. The 9 huge advantages kids raised by parents who made them work for everything have as adults: 1. They follow through even when they don’t feel like it Photoroyalty | Shutterstock.com Teaching discipline doesn’t just mean forcing kids to do chores or help at home, although those things can be beneficial in many ways. It’s about teaching kids how to look after themselves, regulate through discomfort, and think critically, even when it’s not easy. Kids raised by parents who made them work for things now have a disciplined mentality as adults. Even when it’s easier to procrastinate, stay stagnant, or avoid accountability in their own lives, these adult kids …

8 Phrases Kids Raised By Messy & Casual Parents Say When They Grow Up

8 Phrases Kids Raised By Messy & Casual Parents Say When They Grow Up

Published by Jenni Sidey

Clutter creates stress for everyone, including kids raised by parents who have a very casual attitude about what constitutes being tidy. We all get messy now and again, but growing up in a mess that’s never cleaned up means not learning the basic skills of keeping life organized. As adults, they’ll drop hints about just how messy their parents were in the phrases they use when talking to you. Phrases kids raised in messy homes by casual parents say when they grow up: 1. ‘Can we go to your place?’ Krakenimages.com | Shutterstock.com It’s hard to keep a tidy house if you grew up in a messy one. Chances are when these kids grow up, they’ll harbor shame about their living space, even if it’s much less messy than the one they grew up in.  In fact, it just becomes easier to avoid having people over, something they probably also did when they were young. The self-consciousness and emotional regulation struggles that living in a chaotic home prompted in these kids are now manifesting in isolating ways. …

6 Habits Kids Have As Adults When They Grow Up In Homes Where Tidiness Is Overly Important

6 Habits Kids Have As Adults When They Grow Up In Homes Where Tidiness Is Overly Important

Published by Jenni Sidey

The environment in which children grow up is critical to their emotional development. Doing something as simple as household chores helps kids become confident and self-efficient. But sometimes, even the cleanest homes put kids at risk. That’s especially true for children raised in households where tidiness is much more important than just being a kid. When kids are raised in homes where tidiness is more important than having fun, they carry these habits into adulthood 1. They tend to clean obsessively SHVETS production | Pexels Children who are raised in environments where tidiness is held in higher regard than having fun come to learn that cleaning is the most important thing, even into adulthood. As adults, those tendencies can evolve into a compulsive need to clean. Perhaps as children they viewed cleanliness as a way to please their parents. And while cleaning is a good habit to have, doing so compulsively is not. In fact, compulsive cleaning is often a sign of obsessive-compulsive disorder. It doesn’t mean a person who grew up like this actually …

9 Habits Kids Who Grew Up Having To Keep The Peace Develop That They Don’t Even Notice As Adults

9 Habits Kids Who Grew Up Having To Keep The Peace Develop That They Don’t Even Notice As Adults

Published by Jenni Sidey

Growing up in an environment that’s full of conflict has a huge effect on kids. Sometimes when they grow up, they try to control how everyone feels because they think it will make things better. That takes a heavy toll that doesn’t lift as they go through life. Instead, they end up developing habits that they didn’t really know they had that impact the rest of their lives. Kids who had to keep the peace in the home when they were growing up often develop these habits as adults, even if they don’t notice  1. They never talk about what’s bothering them Peopleimages.com – YuriArcurs via Canva As someone trained to be a peacekeeper from such a young age, these people become experts at suppressing their emotions. Even when there really is an issue they should talk about, they never bring it up because they don’t want to upset anyone. It’s tempting to push aside emotions that feel uncomfortable or difficult, but it stresses people out so much that it starts to change their physical …

10 Foods Boomers & Gen X Grew Up Eating That Gen Z Considers Inedible

10 Foods Boomers & Gen X Grew Up Eating That Gen Z Considers Inedible

Published by Jenni Sidey

As the most ethnically and racially diverse generation, Gen Z grew up experiencing a wide range of flavors and ingredients in their food. As a result, what was popular with boomers and Gen Xers when they were kids has been deemed inedible by the younger crowd. That being said, this doesn’t mean food back in the day was bad. Boomers and Gen X were raised in different eras with different access. Highly creative in the kitchen, their parents found ways to make simple foods work for them. And while a few Gen Zers might still enjoy these tried-and-true favorites, the general consensus is: thanks but no thanks. Foods boomers and Gen X grew up eating and enjoying that Gen Z won’t even try: 1. Jell-O salads Adilson Sochodolak | Shutterstock Life wasn’t about creating gourmet meals. Back in the day, parents were looking for ways to make good, affordable food. This is why Jell-O salads were so popular for boomers and older Gen Xers.  Tyler Angora, curator of the LeRoy Historical Society, explained, “Gelatin salads …

7 Rare Traits Kids Have As Adults If They Grew Up Roaming Malls And Passing Notes To Friends

7 Rare Traits Kids Have As Adults If They Grew Up Roaming Malls And Passing Notes To Friends

Published by Jenni Sidey

Teenagers in the 80s and 90s grew up in a much different world. While they would spend hours at the mall running around or passing notes during class at school, kids today don’t know what that’s like. With mall culture slowly dying and cell phones taking over the need for paper notes, only the people who know first-hand how much fun these things were tend to have certain traits as adults. When kids grew up passing notes in class and roamed malls with their friends, they have these rare traits as adults 1. They’re able to adapt to new slang Samuel Borges Photography via Canva The reason language has changed so much over the years is because of teenage girls. In fact, women are responsible for 90% of linguistic changes today. Thou was changed to you because of teenage girls writing letters to each other. Kids who grew up passing notes probably wrote in all sorts of code. And in order to go undetected by their teachers, they had to be discreet, writing creatively and …

If You Were A Gifted Kid In The 70s, 80s & 90s You Have These 10 Traits As An Adult

If You Were A Gifted Kid In The 70s, 80s & 90s You Have These 10 Traits As An Adult

Published by Jenni Sidey

If you were an extremely intelligent kid growing up in the 1970s, 80s, or 90s, there’s a good chance you either tested for, or, if you were at the absolute top of the class, were accepted into, your school’s gifted program. Even if you never took part, if your IQ put you into the gifted category, it’s likely that now that you’re an adult, you share some specific traits with your fellow smarty-pants. People who grew up as gifted kids in the 70s, 80s, and 90s usually have these specific traits now that they’re adults 1. You’re self-directed insta_photos | Shutterstock Most people need someone to tell them what to do, to some extent. Unsure of themselves, the average person asks for guidance, whereas gifted kids are more likely to be self-directed. They don’t need someone breathing down their necks. Because they’re knowledgeable, they take the initiative without thinking twice.  For many, making the first move is scary, but gifted kids aren’t fazed. Even if they mess up, they understand that mistakes can lead to …