All posts tagged: narcissism

‘Lord of the Flies’ reminded me to resist my literary narcissism : NPR

‘Lord of the Flies’ reminded me to resist my literary narcissism : NPR

Published by Sam Flores

David McKenna as Piggy in Netflix’s new Lord of the Flies adaptation. J Redza/Eleven/Sony Pictures Television hide caption toggle caption J Redza/Eleven/Sony Pictures Television Watching Netflix’s new adaptation of William Golding’s Lord of the Flies, I found myself struggling. Grappling might be the better word, actually. I wasn’t grappling with the show itself, an ambitious, gorgeously shot if ultimately thin take on a book I absolutely hated, back in ninth grade when my fellow classmates and I got pedagogically frog-marched through its ham-fisted symbolism. (“What do Piggy’s spectacles represent? Write 500 words.”) The new series’ creator, Jack Thorne, co-created Adolescence, last year’s grim chronicle of youth and violence and masculinity — hey, guy’s got a niche. What I was grappling with was my own reaction to the show — namely, how the only character I could manage to care about was Piggy, the brainy, bespectacled fat kid who’s forever carping about looking out for others, fire safety and finding water. (In both the series and in Golding’s book, he represents civilization, judicious restraint, the voice …

Democrats mock reported personalized Patel bourbon: ‘Notes of insecurity, narcissism’ 

Democrats mock reported personalized Patel bourbon: ‘Notes of insecurity, narcissism’ 

Published by Sam Flores

Democrats on the House Judiciary Committee mocked FBI Director Kash Patel after a new report came out saying the Trump administration official occasionally travels with a “personalized branded bourbon” engraved with his name and title.  “The Kash Patel bourbon: strong notes of insecurity, narcissism, incompetence and alcohol-fueled national security risk,” the lawmakers wrote in a… Source link

11 Traits You Can Easily Spot In A Bad Person That You Won’t Find In Good People At All

11 Traits You Can Easily Spot In A Bad Person That You Won’t Find In Good People At All

Published by Jenni Sidey

We have all kinds of societal and personal ideas of what a “bad person” looks like, but more often than not, those are reflections of us, rather than someone else. We don’t always have a great definition of what it means to be a “bad” person, but when we see them, we know. From subtle behaviors to passive-aggressive language, there are traits you can easily spot in a bad person that you won’t find in good people at all. We also notice our own energy change, which is why noticing these behaviors is essential for ensuring you’re not draining yourself in favor of being “liked” or making someone else comfortable. Here are 11 traits you can easily spot in a bad person that you won’t find in good people at all 1. They judge people on things they can’t change PeopleImages | Shutterstock While we’re all, good and bad, wired to judge people upon first impressions, the worst people in your life use their judgment as a tool to actually make you feel bad. They …

4 Disturbing Symptoms People Often Develop After Being In A Relationship With A Narcissist

4 Disturbing Symptoms People Often Develop After Being In A Relationship With A Narcissist

Published by Jenni Sidey

All people have some narcissistic traits: They can help you become a tougher person, give you the right amount of confidence, and allow you to set limits on how others treat you. Research has shown how narcissism can be activated in situations of need, scarcity, stress, and survival. Nevertheless, some people take these traits to a disturbing and unhealthy extreme. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you’ll notice they expect endless praise from you. Narcissists want to control others, usually by separating them from the ones who support them. Narcissists try to lower others’ self-esteem to boost their own. All of these actions are abusive, and victims of such abuse may find that they develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) symptoms. This condition is called Post Narcissist Stress Disorder (PNSD). Much like PTSD, PNSD is a condition that affects people who have been in a close relationship with a narcissist. Living with a narcissist can be extremely exhausting and can cause psychological trauma to the other person because narcissists are usually manipulative and …

Confidence or Narcissism? | Psychology Today

Confidence or Narcissism? | Psychology Today

Published by Jenni Sidey

Most of us are very poor at distinguishing narcissism from confidence. Yet having the skill is integral to our thriving. Confidence presents with self-awareness, empathy, kindness, sociality, and security in one’s abilities, which arises through the physiology of experiencing a safe environment. Conversely, narcissism presents with a lack of self-awareness, empathy, kindness, and sociality, and with profound insecurities and an inflated sense of self that arises through the physiology of experiencing an unsafe environment. Confident people uplift others to feel their own emotional warmth and joy, while narcissists diminish others to enhance their own sense of dominance and pleasure. From an evolutionary perspective, perceived threat demands that at times we have a strong self-focus as a mechanism for survival. An environment of safety allows for the dissipation of self-focus and amplification of other-focus; it is a necessity for the thriving of the tribe and the species. Threat can bring out a phenotype of approach, aggression, assault, and antisocial behavior that is well preserved and valued within our DNA, as it serves us and our tribe …

Narcissism runs in the family, but not because of parenting

Narcissism runs in the family, but not because of parenting

Published by José Betancourt

A recent study mapping the personality traits of thousands of twins and their family members suggests that narcissistic behavioral patterns are passed down from parent to child entirely through genetic inheritance, rather than through child-rearing methods. The research, published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, indicates that individual life experiences outside the childhood home shape the remaining variations in this trait. These results prompt a major shift in how psychologists think about the origins of narcissism. Narcissism is a personality trait defined by a sense of grandiosity, feelings of entitlement, and a strong drive to acquire social status. People who exhibit high levels of narcissism often experience early success in dating and leadership roles, projecting an initial confidence that others find attractive. At the same time, this personality dimension regularly leads to interpersonal conflict, risky decision-making, and organizational disruption over the long term. Because narcissistic tendencies remain highly stable once formed in adolescence or early adulthood, psychologists are highly interested in understanding how these traits develop in the first place. Historically, popular psychology and academic …

Truly Narcissistic People Often Do These 11 Things That Ruin Everyone Else’s Good Time

Truly Narcissistic People Often Do These 11 Things That Ruin Everyone Else’s Good Time

Published by Jenni Sidey

No matter what you celebrate, if you have a truly narcissistic person in your life, you can count on them to try to ruin everyone’s good time. People having fun without attention on the narcissist? They simply won’t stand for it.  With all the narcissists I’ve had in my life, starting with my mother, I can’t count the hours I’ve spent trying to cheer them or get them to slow down on drinking themselves into oblivion. Finally, I learned the secret: let them act out as much as they want and give up on the idea that somehow you can change them (or the outcome). To start, prepare yourself for some common selfish behavior that might come out when others are enjoying themselves. Truly narcissistic people often do these 11 things that ruin everyone else’s good time 1. They hijack the conversation Kaboompics | Pexels Truly narcissists people make sure that all conversational roads lead back to them. They may not say, “Enough about me, what do you think about me,” but they’re ticking off the …

If A Man Wants You To Question Your Own Sanity, He’ll Use These 12 Subtle Phrases To Gaslight And Manipulate You

If A Man Wants You To Question Your Own Sanity, He’ll Use These 12 Subtle Phrases To Gaslight And Manipulate You

Published by Jenni Sidey

Gaslighting tactics have been primarily understudied in psychological research until recent years. It’s not just an experience that people struggle with in their relationships and tolerate in their passing interactions; it’s a psychological and manipulative tactic that’s often associated with narcissism and toxic partners. For many people, it’s a constant battle. Their relationship is riddled with subtle phrases meant to make them develop a distrust in themselves, all with the careful choice of their partner’s words. Whether it’s passing blame or acting like the victim, if a man wants you to question your own sanity, he’ll use these certain subtle phrases to gaslight and manipulate you. But by recognizing these patterns, people can safeguard their emotional health, setting a clear expectation of the respect they demand and the energy they allow in their daily lives. If a man wants you to question your own sanity, he’ll use these 12 subtle phrases to gaslight and manipulate you 1. ‘You sound crazy’ MAYA LAB | Shutterstock According to a study from Maricopa Community Colleges, knowing your partner …

Vulnerable narcissism is linked to intense celebrity worship via parasocial relationships

Vulnerable narcissism is linked to intense celebrity worship via parasocial relationships

Published by José Betancourt

New research published in Behavioral Sciences suggests that people with certain self-centered but insecure personality traits tend to develop intense, one-sided bonds with famous figures. This unreciprocated connection provides evidence as to why these individuals are more likely to become excessively attached to celebrities. Extreme fascination with public figures is a growing issue in modern society. This behavior ranges from simply enjoying entertainment with friends to developing unhealthy obsessions that disrupt daily life. Psychologists often view this progression through an absorption and addiction framework. In this framework, people with a poorly developed sense of identity might use their interest in a celebrity as a coping mechanism. As they become more absorbed in the public figure’s life, their behavior can become addictive and increasingly problematic. The new study was conducted by Lawrence Locker Jr. and Jeff Klibert, psychology professors at Georgia Southern University, alongside Joshua L. Williams, a professor and chair of criminal justice and criminology at the same institution. They sought to explore how specific psychological struggles might drive obsessive fan behavior. “We were motivated …

New study explores the real-time link between narcissism and perfectionism

New study explores the real-time link between narcissism and perfectionism

Published by José Betancourt

A new study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences has found that narcissism and perfectionism are more closely linked in everyday life than previously thought, with moment-to-moment changes in these traits shaping how people think and feel. Previous research has established that narcissism and perfectionism are related as stable personality traits. Narcissism typically encompasses two distinct forms: grandiose narcissism, characterized by confidence and a sense of superiority, and vulnerable narcissism, marked by insecurity and sensitivity to criticism. Perfectionism is similarly divided into two dimensions: perfectionistic strivings, which involve setting and pursuing high standards, and perfectionistic concerns, which reflect worries about making mistakes and being negatively evaluated. While these relationships have been well documented at the trait level, less is known about how they operate in real time. A research team based at RPTU University Kaiserslautern-Landau in Germany sought to address this gap by examining whether narcissistic states and perfectionistic thoughts co-occur in individuals’ daily lives, and whether these associations differ depending on the type of narcissism and perfectionism involved. Led by Charlotta S. …