All posts tagged: personal growth

11 Signs You’re Actually At Peace With Zero Desire To Be Understood, Admired, Or Pitied

11 Signs You’re Actually At Peace With Zero Desire To Be Understood, Admired, Or Pitied

Published by Jenni Sidey

Especially in today’s world, filled with chaos and constant stimulation, finding peace isn’t an easy task. However, according to experts from Harvard Health, there are so many accessible mindset shifts and behaviors you can adopt to live a healthier, happier life, despite everything going on around you. From shifting your routines to building relationships that don’t urge you to question your worth, all of these habits are beneficial for living a more grounded life. However, there are also many signs you’re actually at peace with zero desire to be understood, admired, or pitied by anyone. You’re secure in who you are, and that grounded authenticity makes life more fulfilling and meaningful. Here are 11 signs you’re actually at peace with zero desire to be understood, admired, or pitied 1. You’re comfortable spending time alone StockPhotoDirectors | Shutterstock As a study from Nature Communications explains, a person’s attitude about their alone time shapes their experience of it. So, if someone is constantly avoiding the quiet of solitude and overthinking when they spend time alone, chances are they’re …

Experts Say The Happiest People After 70 Aren’t The Ones Who Chased Purpose — They Focused On These 3 Things Instead

Experts Say The Happiest People After 70 Aren’t The Ones Who Chased Purpose — They Focused On These 3 Things Instead

Published by Jenni Sidey

Living a meaningful life begins and ends with the individual, but the way someone lives tends to ripple outward. Some people spend their lives chasing money or status, others focus on spiritual growth, and many land somewhere in between, just trying to get through without causing too much damage to themselves or the people around them. There are endless ways to define meaning, but certain life lessons tend to show up again and again in people who feel genuinely satisfied by the time they reach old age. Instead of chasing purpose, if you focus on a few things after 70, chances are you’re living a more meaningful life than most people ever will — one rooted in self-knowledge and intention rather than comparison or outside approval. Experts say the happiest people after 70 aren’t the ones who chased purpose — they focused on these things instead: 1. The happiest people after 70 have learned to live their own lives You can’t live someone else’s life, as life coach Susan Allan knows so well. It is …

People Don’t Warn You That These 5 Things You Took For Granted In Your 50s And 60s Will Eventually Fade

People Don’t Warn You That These 5 Things You Took For Granted In Your 50s And 60s Will Eventually Fade

Published by Jenni Sidey

Yes, my 70th year is going well, mostly because I continue to learn and try new things. But I still experience some serious losses. Below is a short list of losses that do not hurt just as much as those above, and are easier to accept and manage, especially with a good bit of humor, because nobody really prepares you that these things you took for granted in your 50s and 60s will eventually fade. People don’t warn you that these 5 things you took for granted in your 50s and 60s will eventually fade: 1. Having a trim waistline The battle against the ever-expanding middle is real, and it’s brutal. Why, oh why, is it so easy to gain weight and so difficult to shed it? As the years pile up, this gets worse and worse. After walking nearly every day for 40 years, I have included yoga, mindful movement, aqua cardio, and a bit of strength training to my routine. I was looking forward to handling prediabetes, as well as getting fitter, stronger, …

5 Life Skills Millennials Developed Naturally That Gen Z Wasn’t Set Up To Learn

5 Life Skills Millennials Developed Naturally That Gen Z Wasn’t Set Up To Learn

Published by Jenni Sidey

Millennials didn’t necessarily plan to build certain life skills in their twenties; they just had to. Between financial instability, job market pressure, and figuring things out without as many digital shortcuts, many Millennials developed habits that shaped their careers, relationships, and the way they live their lives long-term. Those early life skills impacted everything from how they saved up (or didn’t) for retirement to how they talk about and deal with their emotions. Gen Z isn’t necessarily less capable; they’ve just grown up in a completely different environment, one that didn’t always require or encourage the same skills at the same stage of life. But the earlier you build these foundational habits, the easier everything gets later. Here are the life skills Millennials developed naturally that Gen Z wasn’t set up to learn, and why they still matter. The 5 life skills Millennials developed naturally that Gen Z weren’t set up to learn: 1. They start saving early (even when it feels small) Do you think you have time to save for retirement later in life? You …

It’s Not Your Fault: 10 Things You’re Allowed To Forgive Yourself For Because You Were Doing Your Best

It’s Not Your Fault: 10 Things You’re Allowed To Forgive Yourself For Because You Were Doing Your Best

Published by Jenni Sidey

Throughout life, we all go through highs and lows. We say things we wish we could take back. We stay too long. We leave too soon. We replay old memories and cringe at versions of ourselves that didn’t know better yet. But here’s the truth: you were doing your best with the tools, knowledge, and emotional capacity you had at the time. Self-forgiveness isn’t pretending nothing happened, but self-compassion. It’s about understanding that growth comes from mistakes, heartbreak, and hard seasons. If you’ve been carrying guilt, shame, or regret, these are the things you’re allowed to forgive yourself for, because you were doing your best. Here are 10 things you’re allowed to forgive yourself for because you were doing your best: 1. Not getting over your ex right away It’s time to forgive yourself for not getting over your ex. The reason it’s so hard for you to move on is that they gave you some of the happiest and best memories of your life. It’s okay to grieve.  They likely made you feel better …

13 Wake-Up Calls For When You’ve Lost All Motivation And Don’t Know What You’re Doing Anymore

13 Wake-Up Calls For When You’ve Lost All Motivation And Don’t Know What You’re Doing Anymore

Published by Jenni Sidey

Most people stay trapped, not by their circumstances, but by how they think about their circumstances. We are all living in the stories we tell ourselves about how life is. Our realities are moulded by our thoughts far more than many realize. These stories are not permanent. Over the years, I learned that these perspectives can shift toward greater freedom. Here are 13 wake-up calls for when you’ve lost all motivation and don’t know what you’re doing anymore: 1. Don’t equate alone time with being lonely I’ve always been an introvert with a love for ‘me time.’ Over time, my preference for solitude lost its shame-inducing association with me being a ‘loner.’ It became a kind of luxury and a doorway to creativity and building cool things instead. The moment I reframed being alone as a chance to recharge instead of evidence that there was something wrong with me, the shame went out the back window. Now I protect my solo time like it’s sacred, with zero guilt. RELATED: 4 Little Habits To Try Every Day At …

People With Actual Intelligence Never Waste Energy Complaining About These 11 Things

People With Actual Intelligence Never Waste Energy Complaining About These 11 Things

Published by Jenni Sidey

While gossip can occasionally be bonding for romantic couples, and complaining can be good for venting out stagnant emotions when we don’t feel heard, relying on these communication habits all the time can spark a negative spiral that’s contagious to everyone around us. It keeps us stuck in action if we lean on it for comfort too often, and often ensures that we linger on what’s “missing” or “wrong” in our lives instead of moving forward and focusing on growth. Whether it’s a bad boss at their job or a hard project they’re working on, people with actual intelligence never waste energy complaining about these things. They may occasionally vent out negative emotions and seek support, but their complaints never erupt without action. When they notice something is wrong or that they’re struggling in a certain area of their lives, their complaints are a redirection and a reminder to change, not necessarily a comforting ritual. People with actual intelligence never waste energy complaining about these 11 things: 1. Bad friends PeopleImages | Shutterstock.com Of course, letting go …

People Who Didn’t Learn These 11 Life Lessons In Their 30s Will Likely Struggle In Their 40s & Beyond

People Who Didn’t Learn These 11 Life Lessons In Their 30s Will Likely Struggle In Their 40s & Beyond

Published by Jenni Sidey

Many people believe that your life ends after your 20s. That couldn’t be further from the truth. When I entered my 30s, I felt more comfortable in my skin. It allowed me to grow as an individual, while also staying rooted in what I learned from the previous decade. In your 30s, there is a lot to learn. Many of us were settling into our careers and taking on more responsibilities. This decade is when you realize what is truly important. There are certain life lessons we pick up along the way. If someone missed the memo on these, they will likely struggle into their 40s and beyond. It can be hard to gain these skills later in life. Your 30s are the best time to sort through what matters and what doesn’t. It can be difficult to move forward if these lessons are not learned by this period in your life. People who didn’t learn these 11 life lessons in their 30s will likely struggle in their 40s & beyond: 1. They don’t prioritize their …

People Who Feel Lost In Life Usually Find Themselves Again Through These 7 Gentle Reminders

People Who Feel Lost In Life Usually Find Themselves Again Through These 7 Gentle Reminders

Published by Jenni Sidey

When I was 16, I thought I had lost everything. I was kicked out of high school because my mom couldn’t afford tuition. My dad rejected me, our utilities were shut off, and some nights we struggled just to eat. I felt powerless, heartbroken, and completely lost in life. A deep depression took hold, and it honestly felt like the pain would never end. But it did end. And looking back, I’m grateful for those years, because they shaped who I became.  People who feel lost in life often don’t realize they’re standing at the beginning of something, not the end. Over time, many of us find ourselves again through small changes in perspective. These little truths help people who feel lost reconnect with themselves and start moving forward again. People who feel lost in life usually find themselves again through these 7 gentle reminders: 1. Even your worst days still only last 24 hours Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels When life gets tough, time seems to drag on forever, doesn’t it? I know how you …