How Stopping to Smell the Roses Benefits Relationships
My wife Shannon and I absolutely love springtime in the Northeast. Each day offers new surprises. Oh wow, the spring peeper frogs just started singing tonight! Did you see the pink dogwood in front of the porch today? The goldfinches are back at the feeder—aren’t they just so delightful? The rose bush we planted last year is starting to grow buds! But you know, not everyone takes the time to stop and smell the roses (metaphorically speaking). And, let’s be honest, sometimes you just have stuff to do, and smelling the roses doesn’t make it onto the agenda. The Psychology of Being Present-Focused Various studies have shown that having a present-focused approach to daily life provides benefits (e.g., Rush & Grouzet, 2012). Being present-focused when it comes to how one utilizes their time, as well as simply reporting having a positive attitude about being present-focused, are predictive of various markers of health and well-being. So when someone tells you to stop and smell the roses, they are probably looking out for you and giving you …









