We tend to think others are happier and less stressed than they are because people hide their negative emotions well, but studies have shown how this truth-masking can make people feel lonelier and less capable. They begin to believe they are the only ones struggling. We underestimate how often others face negativity, so we think they must lead charmed lives. Yet, no charm exists against uncomfortable feelings. Those who can control those emotions also have more control over other aspects of themselves. Self-control and emotion regulation are closely linked: A study helped explain how both share similar neural pathways for handling emotional situations. Being able to stop yourself from things like impulse spending or seeking instant gratification uses the same brain functions as stopping yourself from reacting emotionally as a reflex. Research has also found that people with good self-control use different ways to connect with irritability and other unpleasant emotions like anxiety and depression. Managing their impulses was the key to reducing anxiety and irritability, while resisting temptation was the key to preventing depression. …