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Tremaine Emory Is Feeling Emotional About His First-Ever Museum Retrospective

Tremaine Emory Is Feeling Emotional About His First-Ever Museum Retrospective

When he asks where my loafers are from, I tell him that I got them at the Coach store I used to work at in Miami ten years ago, and he nods in solidarity. Before he was the creative director of Supreme, much less the founder of a streetwear brand whose cotton wreath motif can be spotted on the likes of Frank Ocean, André 3000, and the many swag gods traipsing around Canal Street on any given day, Emory worked retail at Marc Jacobs. He started as a stockroom associate in New York City, where he was raised, concluding his nine years with the company as a store manager in London. He used some of his relocation stipend to purchase the aforementioned 501s—then brand new—and “wore them every day for a decade.” He jokes that some of the SCAD students he mentored, and continues to communicate with, felt that having a job is “lame.” But looking back, he argues, “I worked retail until I was 35 and I feel great about it. I near-cried when …

Feeling Your Way to Change With Experiential Therapy

Feeling Your Way to Change With Experiential Therapy

If you’re an over thinker or have previously been to therapy, you may understand your patterns and even know why you feel the way you do. However, this insight alone may not be enough to fully change how you feel about your situation. This can be such a frustrating experience. So why does this happen? You can intellectually understand your fears, beliefs, or lived experiences come from the past or are irrational, yet your nervous system continues to respond as if the threat is happening in the present. These reactions are due to implicit emotional memories, or emotional learnings that your body stores when the experience is overwhelming or unable to be processed fully. How Bottom-Up Therapies Work With Implicit Memories Experiential approaches, such as Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Coherence Therapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Somatic Experiencing (SE), all have one thing in common: They move beyond intellectual insight to work directly with emotional experience. Instead of staying in …

Feeling wired? The truth about ‘nervous system resets’ | Life and style

Feeling wired? The truth about ‘nervous system resets’ | Life and style

Whether it’s tapping the side of your hand or standing on a vibrating plate, suggestions on how to “reset” your nervous system are saturating the internet. Cold water plunges, humming, gargling, yawning and spiky acupressure mats are all being touted as ways to help us “regulate” and return to calm. If you’re still talking about feeling “stressed”, you’re behind the times; now, says the internet, you are “dysregulated”. The nervous system is an integral part of being human. “It’s essentially the body’s communication and control network,” says Dr Serena Lai, consultant psychiatrist and associate medical director at London Psychiatry Clinic. “Made up of the brain and spinal cord, it communicates with the entire body through nerves, helping us to sense what is happening around and inside us. When we have that information, we can process it and coordinate a response.” The autonomic nervous system is one part of this network, regulating things the body does automatically, including heart rate, blood pressure and digestion. It has two main branches. “The sympathetic system creates our fight or …

How store brands stopped feeling like a second-best choice

How store brands stopped feeling like a second-best choice

When I was a kid, I was delighted by the brazenness of generic groceries. There was Dr. Thunder, a soda whose name made its ambitions extremely clear. There were chocolate sandwich cookies called Twist and Shout. Somewhere in the cereal aisle were frosted flakes fronted not by Tony the Tiger but, as I remember it, a polar bear: a perfectly respectable mascot, just not the famous one. That was part of the charm of generic food. It was forever making a little sideways gesture toward something else. The cookie was an Oreo in community theater; the cereal was performing Kellogg’s in a cheap wig. Whether we bought the understudy depended, in my family, on whether the ingredient “mattered.” For peanut butter cookies, my mom might spring for Jif and Kerrygold, then grab store-brand flour and brown sugar. Lasagna meant Rao’s sauce and Breakstone cottage cheese layered with Kroger ricotta and noodles. Grocery shopping involved a constantly shifting private calculus of where quality lived, where branding mattered and where an extra two dollars seemed frankly ridiculous. …

Technics’ new EAH-A1000 flagship wireless headphones are a fluid mixture of precision and feeling

Technics’ new EAH-A1000 flagship wireless headphones are a fluid mixture of precision and feeling

In 1994, I got my first summer job at a video store so I could save up enough to stock up on audio gear. I knew, just knew, that if I could get two turntables and a mixer, I could be the next Sasha & Digweed, DJ Icey, or Joey Beltram. And it couldn’t be just any turntables if I was going to headline NASA @ Shelter, The Club at Firestone, Ministry of Sound and/or Renaissance by the time I was 18. It had to be a pair of Technics SL-1200MK2 turntables, the tank-like high-torque club icon. Teenage me was so … let’s say driven, and I mean delusional. It’s 2026, and I’m thinking about this sitting in front of 55th-anniversary Technics SL-1200MK7 turntables (limited to 12,000 units). The turntables sit in an event space in Tokyo, in the offices of Technics’ parent company, Panasonic. Three decades later, a pair of Technics finally took me around the world. Just not this pair. Not the Technics I expected.  I first wanted two Technics because I was obsessed with …

I’m a personal trainer in my 40s—these are the five moves I recommend to everyone to keep their hips feeling young

I’m a personal trainer in my 40s—these are the five moves I recommend to everyone to keep their hips feeling young

Last week, in the circuits class I run, there was one exercise that a few people struggled with. It involved standing in front of a chair with your leg extended and your foot on the seat. You then raise your foot slightly to tap your heel on one side and then the other. It challenges your balance and works your leg muscles. The men in the class found it fairly easy, but several women said they struggled to raise their leg high enough because their hips felt stiff. Latest Videos FromFit&Well I hear this often from my female personal training clients in their 40s and beyond. Hormonal changes around menopause can contribute to muscle and joint discomfort, while spending long periods sitting may leave your hips feeling stiffer. The five moves below combine mobility, strength and balance to help you move your hips with more control and greater ease. You may like I recommend using them as a warm-up (by doing one round without weights), a finisher or a standalone circuit, building up to three …

Constantly Feeling 'Checked Out'? What Your Brain Might Be Trying To Tell You

Constantly Feeling 'Checked Out'? What Your Brain Might Be Trying To Tell You

If you feel “checked out” more often than not these days, you’re certainly not alone. Between reading about and witnessing footage of multiple wars, humanitarian crises, the devastating effects of climate change, as well as bracing ourselves for threats like self-improving AI and a “Godzilla” El Niño, things can feel pretty overwhelming (to say the least). One millennial Redditor recently explained how they spend “way too much time” on their phone and social media and have realised “how cyclical everything is, how much noise there is, and how little impact” it now has on their life. They asked: “Is anyone else kinda just checking out of everything?” Plenty of people could relate to this sensation. “I’m finding myself watching nothing but 90s/00s nostalgia videos lately. I really can’t cope with this hell anymore,” said one commenter. “I think our generation is just burned the f out,” said another. “We are onto our one millionth ‘once in a lifetime event’ now. We were sold a bunch of ‘work hard’ lies that aren’t paying off. Most of us are one big financial …

Playing alone does not necessarily mean feeling lonely, gaming study finds

Playing alone does not necessarily mean feeling lonely, gaming study finds

A survey of 2,252 adults found that people who played The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild or Yoshi’s Crafted World reported less loneliness and higher scores on a measure of stoicism than nonplayers. The researchers propose that open-world challenges may encourage persistence and self-reliance, while gentler games may promote calm attention and emotional recovery. The study was cross-sectional and used a convenience sample, so it cannot show that playing these games caused lower loneliness or greater resilience. The players who reported less loneliness were not necessarily meeting more people online. Many were spending time alone inside large digital worlds or bright, low-pressure adventures. Their games offered exploration, setbacks, small discoveries, and repeated chances to try again. The researchers use that term to describe emotional resilience, self-control, and a calm response to difficulty. They suggest that certain single-player games may strengthen those qualities without relying on online social contact. The cross-sectional survey does not prove that games caused the differences. Still, it complicates the familiar picture of gaming as little more than escape. “Contrary …

Josh Widdicombe admits ‘terrifying’ feeling ahead of first Strictly Come Dancing live show

Josh Widdicombe admits ‘terrifying’ feeling ahead of first Strictly Come Dancing live show

Want to bookmark your favourite articles and stories to read or reference later? Start your Independent Membership today. Join today Already a member? Log in Get the latest entertainment news, reviews and star-studded interviews with our Independent Culture email Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter Comedian Josh Widdicombe has praised the dynamics of the new Strictly Come Dancing hosting team, saying there are “no egos” – but quipped he was “terrified” by the first live show. The 43-year-old is co-presenting the long-running BBC show alongside Emma Willis and Johannes Radebe. Ahead of this weekend’s first live episode, he shared what he enjoys most about working with his colleagues. He said: “We feel like a team where there’s no ego. “That there’s no one wanting to put themselves out front more than the others. “That we feel like we’ve all got our different personalities and they gel together. “Emma and Johannes are just so generous, sweet and funny – they make working …

11 Emotionally Distant Phrases Women Who Aren’t Feeling It Anymore Often Say To Their Partners

11 Emotionally Distant Phrases Women Who Aren’t Feeling It Anymore Often Say To Their Partners

When a woman begins to feel differently about her partner, she may not show it in her actions, but in what she says and the subtle ways she says it. These words may come off as hurtful or distant because she’s emotionally checked out. It’s not that she’s trying to hurt her partner’s feelings or make them feel bad in any way, but that they come from confusion and overwhelm. Underneath her words, she’s trying to figure out her own heart. Women who are falling out of love with their partner often say these things: 1. ‘Maybe we’re just too different’ Olena Yakobchuk | Shutterstock When a woman uses this phrase, it often comes from frustration and confusion as she realizes that someone she once felt compatible with is no longer someone she can relate to. Whether it’s changing lifestyles or conflicting ideas about the future, she may feel these differences are simply too big to ignore anymore. Licensed therapist and author John Kim, LMFT, explained, “Ultimately, for a relationship to thrive, both people need …