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Certainty in your feelings toward your partner predicts relationship happiness and mental well-being

Certainty in your feelings toward your partner predicts relationship happiness and mental well-being

New research published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships provides evidence that confidence in how a person feels about their romantic partner plays an important role in their overall relationship satisfaction. The findings suggest that when people are highly certain of their positive feelings toward their significant other, they tend to experience greater relationship happiness and better mental health. This research highlights the importance of metacognition, which is the psychological process of thinking about your own thoughts and feelings. For decades, social psychology has explored the concept of attitudes, which are essentially a person’s basic evaluations of a person, place, or thing as either positive or negative. Within this field, scientists have consistently noted that two people can hold the exact same attitude but differ in how strongly or confidently they hold it. Strong attitudes tend to resist change and have a greater influence on a person’s thoughts and behaviors. “I have been studying ‘strong opinions’ for most of my career,” explained Andrew Luttrell, an associate professor of psychological science at Ball State …

11 Things Parents Wish Their Adult Children Knew They Do That Seriously Hurt Their Feelings

11 Things Parents Wish Their Adult Children Knew They Do That Seriously Hurt Their Feelings

Our parents might not be perfect, but they likely did all they could to make sure we felt loved as children. The things they did when we were young impacted us. We might forget that now that we’re older, our behavior takes a toll on them as well. Once we become adults ourselves, we can get caught up in our own everyday lives. We may find that we’re not spending time with our parents. Some adult children may dodge their parents’ calls or forget to update them on their everyday lives. Even if these things are not intentional, it still hurts their feelings. Some parents may not want to make a big deal about these things and let things go when they genuinely upset them. Likely, they wish their children knew how much their behavior hurt their feelings. These are 11 things parents wish their adult children knew they do that seriously hurt their feelings 1. Ignoring their calls Halfpoint via Canva We’ve all been there. Our phone rings, and we are hopeful it is …

Dame Prue Leith reveals true feelings on Nigella Lawson joining Great British Bake Off

Dame Prue Leith reveals true feelings on Nigella Lawson joining Great British Bake Off

Dame Prue Leith doesn’t think Great British Bake Off producers could have found a “better” replacement than Nigella Lawson. The 86-year-old star announced in January that she was stepping down as Paul Hollywood’s fellow judge on the Channel 4 baking competition, and food writer Nigella, 66, will be taking over inside the iconic tent. Reflecting on the decision, Dame Prue told HELLO! magazine: “I don’t think they could have chosen a better person. I don’t know her well, but what I know of her is all good.” Dame Prue previously insisted while Nigella will “be very different” as a judge, she is backing her to be a success. She told the Daily Star newspaper: “But she’s a class act, she really knows what she’s doing. “She knows her onions – people will expect her to know about cake, which she certainly does, but what they won’t expect is how clever she is, how sharp, witty – she’s really erudite. “She’s a fantastically clever woman.” However, she insisted Paul Hollywood could easily have continued as a …

Our Feelings Contradict Each Other, and That’s OK

Our Feelings Contradict Each Other, and That’s OK

In Part 1 of this series, I suggested a relational paradigm shift that could lead you to greater closeness and intimacy in your relationships and to feeling more heard and understood. Specifically, when your partner and you have different truths, when your experience and your partner’s don’t align, that you could adopt a both-and attitude rather than one of either or. An “and” not “but” system of relating. I encouraged you to accept and practice the right and right paradigm, rather than one of right and wrong. And furthermore, to treat other people’s versions of reality, different and contradictory though they may be, as equally valid and real, equally true, regardless of whether you agree with them, or if they make you feel good about yourself. In this post, rather than speak about both-and as it applies to your relationships with other people, I want to address how it plays out in your relationship with yourself. As human beings, our feelings are complicated, fluid, and usually inconsistent. We feel both positively and negatively, about almost …

Why Highly Sensitive People Feel Compelled to Manage Others’ Feelings

Why Highly Sensitive People Feel Compelled to Manage Others’ Feelings

Do you easily absorb others’ emotions? Are you hyper-aware of others’ moods? This is often the case for highly sensitive people (HSPs). Because of your sensitivity, you often notice tension in others’ voices, subtle shifts in facial expression, or the smallest change in a room’s energy, and your body reacts before your mind fully registers what’s happening. Because you feel these shifts so quickly and intensely, it can be hard to simply notice them and move on. Many HSPs develop a strong pull to ease tension or ensure everyone is OK. Over time, this can slide into rescuing, where empathy turns into over-responsibility for other people’s emotional states. How a Pattern of Rescuing or Fixing Develops Most people don’t consciously decide to become rescuers. This pattern is usually learned early, especially in emotionally intense or unpredictable families. This can happen when family members have intense or unpredictable emotions, you were praised for being helpful or easygoing, conflict felt unsafe or overwhelming, or you learned to track others’ moods to stay emotionally secure. As a result, …

SNL UK to launch tonight: Cast share feelings ahead of premiere

SNL UK to launch tonight: Cast share feelings ahead of premiere

Get the latest entertainment news, reviews and star-studded interviews with our Independent Culture email Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter In October 1975, Saturday Night Live premiered in the US and, unbeknown to anyone, the show would become one of America’s most successful comedy shows, launching the careers of A-listers from Eddie Murphy to Tina Fey. Fifty years later, the first-ever UK edition is set to introduce a raft of British performers hoping to reach similar heights. SNL stalwart Fey has channelled her inner Mary Poppins to accept the role as the UK version’s first celebrity guest host, with Jamie Dornan and Riz Ahmed also set to present episodes throughout the eight-episode run, which will air on Sky. But the cogs that keep the machine whirring are the fixed cast members and writers, and among those poised to become household names are Hammed Animashaun and Bella Hull. The cast of ‘SNL UK’ (Sky UK) Since the cast was announced on 4 …

10 Best Toys And Books To Help Kids Understand Their Feelings

10 Best Toys And Books To Help Kids Understand Their Feelings

We hope you love the products we recommend! All of them were independently selected by our editors. Just so you know, HuffPost UK may collect a share of sales or other compensation from the links on this page if you decide to shop from them. Oh, and FYI – prices are accurate and items in stock as of time of publication. Helping your child navigate something as big and complex as emotional wellbeing can feel pretty daunting, if you ask me. But there are ways to support your child to understand and manage their feelings that can be “fun and even enlightening”, according to Hayley Standen, a social, emotional and mental health (SEMH) advisor, who’s teamed up with Learning Resources to create a Kids’ Wellbeing Toolkit. Emotional literacy is the ability to recognise, name and talk about feelings – children learn this over time, and it’s pretty important for everything from self-awareness and empathy to maintaining healthy relationships. You can start building emotional literacy by helping children learn the words for different feelings. “Naming emotions …

How Social, Cultural, and Political Structures Influence Our Feelings

How Social, Cultural, and Political Structures Influence Our Feelings

Review of Explosive Emotions: How Modern Society Shapes What We Feel, by Eva Illouz (Princeton University Press), 261 pp., $29.95. Emotions are often regarded as the products of unique experiences and our biological and psychological makeup. Nonetheless, Eva Illouz points out, as they externalize our inner world, emotions also reflect an internalization of the outer world. In Explosive Emotions, Illouz (a professor at the School for Advanced Studies in the Social Sciences in Paris, and author of 18 books) argues that with their therapeutic techniques and lucrative industry of self-improvement, psychologists have “obfuscated the ways in which modern life makes us implode within the echo chamber of our interiority.” Drawing on psychology, philosophy, sociology, and literary classics, including The Odyssey, Othello, Madame Bovary, The Scarlet Letter, and Remembrance of Things Past, Illouz provides an in-depth examination of 12 emotions. Explosive motions, she argues, respond to key features of modernity, individualism, equality, meritocracy, democracy, capitalism, consumer culture, nationalism, and immigration, which often conflict with each other, and to an assumption that we “are entitled to an …

King Charles’ beloved nanny Mabel Anderson: meet his surrogate mother who he could share his ‘feelings and frustrations’ with

King Charles’ beloved nanny Mabel Anderson: meet his surrogate mother who he could share his ‘feelings and frustrations’ with

Outside of his family, King Charles has shared a decades-spanning bond with one particular woman, Mabel Anderson. She was just 22 years old when the future monarch was born in 1948. Mabel reportedly first applied to be an assistant nurse to Charles and was the only applicant who was “not shaking with nerves”.  The younger of two Scottish nannies who cared for Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip’s eldest son, Mabel came to be “a surrogate mother” to the Prince who would one day become King.  “She was clearly really close to him in his formative years,” Ailsa Anderson, the late Queen’s former private secretary, tells HELLO!. “And clearly she’s still really special to the King and to his heart.” Nanny to a future King In the 1994 book The Prince of Wales: A Biography, author Jonathan Dimbleby wrote that Mabel “fully lived up” to Prince Philip’s expectations after the royals’ older nanny, Helen Lightbody, left.  According to Jonathan, Mabel “was devoted to her employers, she had her own clear sense of how to handle the …

Why We Sometimes Hide Our Feelings From the People We Love Most

Why We Sometimes Hide Our Feelings From the People We Love Most

It may seem surprising that the people we love most are often the ones we find hardest to be emotionally honest with. In therapy, I sometimes meet clients who can speak openly about frustrations with colleagues or friends, yet become noticeably more careful when the conversation turns to their family, particularly their parents. They describe difficult memories calmly, often emphasizing what their parents sacrificed or how much they appreciate them. At first glance, the emotional tone appears restrained, as if something important has been held back. When we slow down and explore the moment more carefully, the feeling is usually still present. What makes it difficult is not the emotion itself but the meaning attached to that emotion. In many families, especially those shaped by values such as filial piety, respect for elders, and the importance of maintaining harmony, emotional expression toward parents carries moral weight. Anger can feel like disrespect. Disappointment can feel like ingratitude. Even acknowledging certain emotions internally may create a sense of guilt. Because of this, people often learn to soften …