Contributor: Women aren’t too picky to date. They just don’t need men to feel fulfilled
Across Los Angeles, you can feel the shift in dating without anyone saying it out loud. Men talk about how hard it’s become to meet someone, while women talk about how peaceful life feels now on their own. The gap between those experiences is often framed as women asking for too much, but that explanation misses what’s actually changed. Women aren’t rejecting relationships. They’re rejecting connections that introduce strain into lives they’ve already established. Los Angeles is a city built on reinvention. People come here to create something, to become something, to step into a version of themselves that feels more aligned than the one they left behind. That same instinct shows up in dating, but the baseline for relationships has shifted in ways many people haven’t fully caught up to yet. Lately, I’ve been seeing a steady stream of commentary online suggesting that women are choosing to stay single because their standards are now higher. The narrative is simple: Women have become financially independent, emotionally self-sufficient and less willing to compromise, leaving men frustrated …
