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People In Their 50s And 60s Say These 4 Things Help When Loneliness Feels Like Just Too Much To Bear | Ruth Schimel, PhD

People In Their 50s And 60s Say These 4 Things Help When Loneliness Feels Like Just Too Much To Bear | Ruth Schimel, PhD

Published by Jenni Sidey

Did you know loneliness is considered a public health threat in the United States and in England? In fact, England announced a government position, the Minister of Loneliness, — to deal with its growing loneliness epidemic. Of course, there are times when many people choose to be alone to seek restorative solitude or “me time.” Yet, when you’re not feeling alone by choice, it can be a difficult situation to bear. If your loneliness results in feeling unimportant, disconnected, ignored, or isolated, research has shown there may be serious effects on mental and physical health, comparable to the high mortality rates of obesity. The good news is, many of the issues that cause symptoms of loneliness can be cured or improved when you’re willing to deal with them. Studies have consistently suggested that changing how lonely people view their social world is more effective than just providing more social contact. Teaching social skills, providing support, increasing social opportunities, and correcting negative thinking can help change negative thinking about social situations. People in their 50s and …

If A Young Girl Admires You, A Survey Found That Has Nothing To Do With Looks

If A Young Girl Admires You, A Survey Found That Has Nothing To Do With Looks

Published by Jenni Sidey

A survey found that a majority of young girls don’t choose who they admire based on their appearance, despite societal pressure that tells them they should. Researchers concluded in the past that people judge how “human” they think a woman is based on how attractive she is, while the measure for men is usually intelligence. Young girls are constantly being told that their worth is dependent on how they look and that they should judge others the same way. Thankfully, it looks like they’re rejecting this false notion. Young girls are actually more likely to base their admiration on a person’s abilities. Girl Scouts of the USA surveyed members between 5 and 13 and found that 85% of the girls “admired people for what they can do, not how they look,” according to a report from Good Good Good. cottonbro studio | Pexels It can be difficult for adults to maintain this perspective at times, so Sarah Keating, the Vice President of Girl and Volunteer Experience for Girl Scouts, said these youngsters are setting a …

As A Gen-X Kid I Was Taught Success Meant My Career, But Nearing 50, I Finally See The Problem

As A Gen-X Kid I Was Taught Success Meant My Career, But Nearing 50, I Finally See The Problem

Published by Jenni Sidey

Halfway through her emotional interview with Ellen DeGeneres in 2016, human fighting machine Ronda Rousey started to sob. And it wasn’t any of this fake TV ratings stuff, either. The 29-year-old began to weep as she recalled her mindset right after she was knocked out while defending her UFC Women’s Bantamweight Championship title against Holly Holm in November of 2015, a fight she was wildly favored to win. “What am I anymore if I’m not this?” Rousey recalled wondering in the locker room immediately following her upset loss. “I’m nothing.” She admitted that she seriously thought about taking her own life. “What’s the point now,” she remembered thinking, “people will hate me.” As a Gen-X kid, I was taught success meant my career, but nearing 50, I finally see the problem: Even the most successful have doubts. It was a rare human glimpse into the mind of the sort of person we all expect to be fiercer than us, stronger than us, and tougher than we’ll ever be.  And yet, there she was: Ronda Rousey, the definition of a self-made modern woman doing exactly what she wanted to do in this world, revealing how she …

Mom Proud After Hearing Daughter’s Response To Being Bullied At School

Mom Proud After Hearing Daughter’s Response To Being Bullied At School

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In a TikTok video, a mom named Maren Droubay felt proud when her daughter affirmed that she knows who she is, in response to being bullied at school. For most parents, hearing that their child is being bullied at school can instantly trigger a plethora of different emotions. The immediate worry is about whether their child is okay, of course, quickly followed by anger and frustration over what’s being done about it in school. After finding out that her daughter was being bullied at school, Droubay was stunned at the way her daughter was handling the situation, making her feel that she was “doing at least one thing right.” A mom felt proud to ‘be doing at least one thing right’ after hearing her daughter’s response to being bullied at school. In Droubay’s video, she had been walking with her daughter after picking her up from school. The mother and daughter were in the middle of a conversation, and Droubay’s daughter was relaying what another kid at school had told her. Her daughter explained that …

I Tell My Daughter These 9 Things Constantly Because The World Won’t

I Tell My Daughter These 9 Things Constantly Because The World Won’t

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As a mother, you want to build up your daughter’s confidence. In a world that can be scary for women, the secret to success is having a strong sense of self-worth. So, of course, raising children who feel good about themselves is a secret weapon they can use when you’re not around. As a survivor of abuse, my biggest fears about having a daughter were similar to those of others striving to be good mothers. My first fear was that if I had a girl, how could I identify with her in a healthy way? My second was that if I have difficulty loving myself, how could I model self-love well enough for her? That’s why I decided that before the world gets to her, here are the nine things I’m telling my daughter on repeat. I tell my daughter these 9 things constantly because the world won’t: 1. ‘You are amazing every day in every way’ Deciding to carry my daughter to term was no small decision. When I was a child, I was …

People Who Become Happier And More Likable With Age Usually Practice These 6 Daily Habits

People Who Become Happier And More Likable With Age Usually Practice These 6 Daily Habits

Published by Jenni Sidey

So many people never practice what they preach, especially when it comes to self-love. You hear it all the time. Research has suggested you have to practice self-love to be happier and more likable with age. You can’t possibly bring positive energy if you’re constantly surrounded by negativity. It’s a sad concept, but it rings true.  The sadder thing is that not many get to practice self-love because they’re afraid of the consequences if they put themselves first. But let me reiterate. You can’t make others happy if you’re not happy. In a way, putting yourself first is taking care of other people. If the people you love don’t understand, maybe it’s time to reevaluate your relationship with them. People who become happier and more likable with age usually practice these 6 daily habits: 1. They know the self-proritizing isn’t selfish — it’s healthy The term “selfish” often has a bad reputation. However, what you need to understand is that being selfish and putting yourself first is not bad at all. How can you possibly take …

Women Who Feel More At Peace When They’re Alone Usually Have These 10 Distinct Personality Traits

Women Who Feel More At Peace When They’re Alone Usually Have These 10 Distinct Personality Traits

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Women who feel more at peace when they are alone have distinct personalities, which more extroverted people don’t always understand at first. A study of introversion, solitude, and happiness posed a novel idea: “Couldn’t the quiet bliss of some tea and a good book rival the lurid excess of an all-night party? Perhaps introverts are equally happy, but keep it inside, less available for all to see.” Once you know more about the benefits of solitude, you start to understand why some women feel much more at peace alone. It helps make them some of the strongest and most genuine people you will ever meet. Women who feel more at peace when they’re alone usually have these 10 distinct personality traits: 1. They don’t allow toxic people in their lives BearFotos via Shutterstock These women are better than most people at cutting people out of their lives with no hesitation. They will not associate with those who are toxic and negative. Such women would rather be alone than waste their precious energy socializing with people who …

Parents Of Chill, Well-Regulated Kids Tend To Say These 13 Phrases On Repeat | Lisa Petsinis

Parents Of Chill, Well-Regulated Kids Tend To Say These 13 Phrases On Repeat | Lisa Petsinis

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Actions indeed count in parenting —  especially when it comes to raising chill, well-regulated kids. Your kids are watching and modeling your behavior. At the same time, though, a parent’s words matter tremendously to your child and their emotional development, especially a few specific repeated phrases. Research shows that when adults use mental and emotional state talk to discuss thoughts, desires, beliefs, and feelings, it is positively associated with children’s social-emotional development. Most parents want their kids to be well-adjusted, confident, optimistic, compassionate, resilient, capable, self-reliant, and emotionally intelligent. Some children are born with more of these qualities, and parents can work to reinforce them. Other kids, however, need more guidance and encouragement to develop these outcomes. Regardless, what it takes is time, effort, presence, and care. Your care. Your beautiful words. Words that uplift, inspire, and empower them to be the best version of themselves. No amount of professional talk therapy can make up for what a mother or father can do to affect their child’s positive view of themselves. Having chill, well-regulated children starts with you. Parents of …

People Who Cry During Movies Have Emotional Strength, Says Science

People Who Cry During Movies Have Emotional Strength, Says Science

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There are two types of people in the world: those who cry during emotional movies and those who are completely unaffected. If you fall in the crying camp, don’t be embarrassed. You’re actually harboring a pretty amazingly rare trait: emotional strength. I’ll admit it: I cry during movies… and while reading books, listening to music, and listening to podcasts. Depending on my hormone levels, I might preemptively grab tissues and just watch the movie alone. Though a lot of people smirk when they see me crying at movies in tears, I’m really fine with it. Science confirms that people who cry during movies have a rare trait: emotional strength. Prostock-studio | Shutterstock Crying isn’t often associated with strength. Most people would assume the person who is stoic and able to observe a fictional character’s life without becoming emotionally invested is somehow tougher, but that’s not far from the case.  According to neuroscientist Paul Zak, people who have the ability to immerse themselves in a story, like a movie or a book, and become emotionally invested …