Happiness is not something we seek, but rather something we choose. You were sold a bill of goods when it comes to being happy, especially as women. It was never true that success alone would bring you happiness. The problem may not be with you after all.  The problem is that you believed that attaining those things would make you happy, and you are stumped and frustrated that it doesn’t. But it can’t. It never could. Happiness is not out there. It’s inside yourself. It’s kind of like when someone gushes about how great something tastes, and you taste i,t and it just tastes okay — you are disappointed. If someone told you the same thing was very good for you and that it tasted okay, you would eat it and have a very different experience. Your expectations would be realistic. Long-term studies cited in Psychology Today showed that being married does not result in being happier or having a more satisfied life. Women are actually less happy in marriages than men. I am not …