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6 Specific Habits Kids Raised By Anxious Parents Carry Into Adulthood

6 Specific Habits Kids Raised By Anxious Parents Carry Into Adulthood

Published by Jenni Sidey

A parent’s personality traits have a huge impact on their kids, and that’s especially true when it comes to anxiety. Anxious parents raise anxious kids who become anxious adults.  Kids reflect the behavior they see growing up, and if the default is nervous and stressed out, they’ll turn to that emotion instead of learning to mitigate their anxiety. They’ll develop coping mechanisms for their uneasy emotions that become habits that follow them as they grow up. Habits kids develop when raised by anxious parents that follow them into adulthood: 1. They overthink everything Andrii Zastrozhnov | Shutterstock Kids with anxious parents don’t learn emotional stability. They don’t have an example to teach them. Their parents are too anxious to show them what being calm and stable looks like. They’ll think anxiety is the norm and won’t try to manage it. It’ll cause them to constantly stress over every decision or difficult experience. Even as adults, they’ll keep up their habit of overthinking. They’ll be anxious about how they acted throughout the day and replay their memories …

The student loan scam looking to dupe already anxious students | Scams

The student loan scam looking to dupe already anxious students | Scams

Published by Sam Flores

You are about to start university and can’t wait but then you receive a worrying text message. It is a few days before the first student loan payment is due to land in your account and apparently someone has tried to alter your bank details. “Our records indicate that your bank details on your student finance account were changed on Friday 16th. If you did not do this please contact us immediately,” says the text. You click on the web link in the message and go to what you think is the website of the Students Loans Company (SLC), the government body that administers loans and grants. You log in to check that everything is OK, put in your bank details and the screen says: “Thanks for confirming.” But what you have done is supply this important information to criminals. Acting quickly, the scammers then use your log-in details to access your real account and change the bank account so that your student loan payment is diverted to them. Students are often stressed enough without …

How To Stop Anxious Thoughts: The 10-Minute ‘Worry Time’ Habit Experts Recommend

How To Stop Anxious Thoughts: The 10-Minute ‘Worry Time’ Habit Experts Recommend

Published by Sam Flores

While it has gotten better in some ways over time, one thing that has been consistent throughout my experience of living with anxiety is that I cannot shake off thoughts and they will always take over my life. From doing monotonous things at home like showering or even the laundry to big life events like weddings, my brain during bad anxiety spells just does not stop. I have tried so many things to manage this and while some have worked for a short while, my clever anxiety seems to out-smart them. Until this year finally, I seem to have it in a very manageable place and it’s because I, uh, make time for it. One problem with anxious thoughts is that I am always trying to beat them, argue with them or even push them away. However, saying to myself “we don’t have time to worry about this right now” and scheduling a specific ten minutes to let myself worry and ruminate seems to have finally done the trick. I don’t even need the full …

How AI Could Make People More Anxious

How AI Could Make People More Anxious

Published by Sam Flores

Subscribe here: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube | Pocket Casts Nothing sucks you in quite like the internet. It seems to have a way of figuring out what you’re currently obsessed with and serving you more and more of it, whether that’s cat videos, cookie recipes, or information about your most pervasive and seemingly unshakeable anxiety. (At this point, anyone who’s never spent a late night Googling their worries should be studied by science for their willpower.) But with the rise of artificial intelligence, the internet may be fueling a different kind of engagement. Elias Aboujaoude, a psychiatrist at Stanford University, and Ashleigh Golden, a psychologist at Stanford, recently wrote a paper arguing that the design of AI chatbots appears to encourage anxious behavior and keep people stuck in obsessive loops. One in six adults have turned to chatbots for mental-health information and advice, according to a KFF poll, and Golden cautions that “we may be encountering the perfect storm of avoidant coping behaviors and this tech that reinforces those tendencies and disorders.” In …

Guaranteed Ways to Make Yourself Anxious

Guaranteed Ways to Make Yourself Anxious

Published by Jenni Sidey

You can find a lot of information about how to decrease your anxiety, but think about the things you accidentally do that guarantee your anxiety will worsen. I see my patients make consistent mistakes. Once you recognize them, you cannot unsee them. Focus on feeling peaceful instead of becoming competent in managing anxiety and panic anyplace, anywhere. Anxiety fools everyone into believing they are in terrible emotional or situational danger, even though they are not. No one can be in perfect control over when and how they feel anxious; a better goal is to become competent at living well even when anxious. Peace of mind can only be achieved once you know you can handle the worst-case scenario of anxiety without compromising your goals. For example, you continue to drive your children to their appointments despite fear of driving on busy roads, or you show up for a job interview and say what you need to say despite feeling panicked. Avoid people and situations you know will trigger anxiety or panic.Each time you avoid a …

Mental Autophagy: Why You Need to Starve Your Anxious Mind

Mental Autophagy: Why You Need to Starve Your Anxious Mind

Published by Jenni Sidey

We constantly overfeed our brains with digital inputs. Discover how to practice “mental fasting” to heal emotional exhaustion and restore your inner peace. I remember eating at a restaurant in Monaco with a friend when I witnessed something truly shocking. Sitting near us was a group of four young Italian men who had been swimming at the beach all day. They were ravenous, and they ordered plate after plate of food. By the time they finally finished eating, their stomachs were visibly distended, looking as though they were in the early stages of pregnancy. Here in the United States, we experience a similar phenomenon every Thanksgiving. After a massive holiday meal, relatives usually become sluggish, inflamed, and completely exhausted because their bodies are using every ounce of available energy just to process what they consumed. While it is easy to see the physical consequences of overeating, we are entirely blind to how we are doing the exact same thing to our minds every single day. The Exhausted, Overfed Brain From the moment we wake up …

Anxious at 250

Anxious at 250

Published by Daniella Wilson

This year’s Fourth of July fireworks show on the National Mall is the first such event to be designated a “National Special Security Event,” which requires the kind of screening procedures and police presence usually reserved for presidential inaugurations and Super Bowls. It’s a reflection of the logistical complexity and anticipated crowd size of America’s 250th birthday party, but also, unfortunately, its potential appeal to attackers at a time of rising threats. President Trump has promoted the event as “THE LARGEST FIREWORKS SHOW IN HISTORY,” and the NSSE designation puts the Secret Service in charge of planning and protecting it. On a day when temperatures are forecast to be in or near the triple digits, getting in may be more like going through an airport than going to a party. That’s not least because the president has placed himself at the center of the festivities and has plans to give “a really long speech just to show that I can do anything.” Security and intelligence agencies routinely monitor for specific threats against high-profile events, but …

Anxious over unpaid wages, some migrant workers go on job hunts, others mull returning home

Anxious over unpaid wages, some migrant workers go on job hunts, others mull returning home

Published by Sam Flores

Earlier this week, the National Trades Union Congress (NTUC) and the Migrant Workers’ Centre (MWC) said they have found 150 job vacancies for the affected workers. Labour chief Ng Chee Meng said on Friday that more opportunities have since emerged. “We have received interest from over 80 companies with close to 400 vacancies, and our unions are sending in more referrals,” Mr Ng said in a Facebook post, adding that job placements will begin next week. About 400 workers with unpaid wages are also eligible for S$200 in cash and vouchers to help with daily expenses, provided they sign up as MWC members. Authorities are relocating the workers to a single lodging facility to better coordinate support, Mr Ng said. The Tripartite Alliance for Dispute Management was also on-site on Friday to help workers lodge salary claims. “We will make sure no one is left behind in this process,” he added. More than 100 workers employed by KPA Engineering and SK Industries had earlier turned up at the Ministry of Manpower’s service centre at Bendemeer …

Why Anxious Minds Make the Best Leaders

Why Anxious Minds Make the Best Leaders

Published by Jenni Sidey

In 49 BC, Julius Caesar plunged his forces into civil warfare by marching across the Rubicon River, which divided Gaul and Italy. After crossing, Caesar realized that retreat was out of the question. It served as a definitive, permanent declaration of defiance. History suggests this was precisely the moment he made the legendary statement, “The die is cast.” He subsequently proceeded to dismantle the Republic and birth the Roman Empire. As a child, I originally uncovered this historical anecdote through my father. It remained his favorite reference point whenever he encountered a major crisis. He loved framing the boldest choices of his own professional journey—moves that fundamentally improved his trajectory—as personal Rubicon moments. On occasions when his kids were struggling with a tough dilemma, he would advise, “Follow Caesar’s lead and cross the damn river!” Simply put, dictate your reality instead of reacting to it. Permit pressure to fuel your progress. From Nervous Energy to Unexpected Innovation Yet this raises a crucial point: What allows certain individuals to excel under extreme pressure? For many, it …