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I rebuilt my Samsung home screen from scratch and stopped wasting time finding apps

I rebuilt my Samsung home screen from scratch and stopped wasting time finding apps

Published by skeptic

Samsung’s One UI has come a long way, but even the best software can’t stop a home screen from becoming a chaotic mess over time. Looking at my Galaxy Tab S8 Ultra, some home screen pages were cluttered beyond repair while others sat entirely empty. I decided to wipe the slate clean and rebuild my layout from scratch. Related I replaced my Samsung home screen with a custom open-source launcher, and I’m never going back My old Samsung feels like new. Get rid of all the unnecessary home screen pages Start with a blank slate The Galaxy Tab S8 Ultra boasts a huge screen, and the last thing you need is sixty different apps staring back at you on the home screen. To start off, get rid of all the home screens except one. This can be achieved by long-pressing the empty spaces on the home screen and deleting every other home screen page. After that, I manually deleted all the app shortcuts, widgets, and folders from the remaining home screen pages until I was …

Parent Guilt: Finding a Part to Play Without Feeling Blamed

Parent Guilt: Finding a Part to Play Without Feeling Blamed

Published by Jenni Sidey

A mother recently wrote to me at The Parent Hope Project and asked: “Would you be prepared to share your view on the parent guilt I’m struggling with?” And in a recent client session, a dad said that the hardest thing for him in working on himself as a parent was managing his regrets and guilt. It’s so very hard for parents not to feel burdened by guilt. One understandable response has been to separate parents from their child’s problems. Medical explanations for children’s difficulties can provide relief by taking away the implication that parents caused the problem. But a dilemma remains. If the problem is located entirely in a diagnosis, disorder, brain, gene, or other medical explanation, the parent may feel less blameworthy—but also less able to see where they can make a difference. How do we separate a parent from blame without separating them from a meaningful part in their child’s recovery and well-being? For me, this is where a family systems lens is so useful. It helps a parent avoid seeing the …

Tuning In to Joy and Finding the Spark

Tuning In to Joy and Finding the Spark

Published by Jenni Sidey

This is Part 1 of a series. Every attempt at the same note ended in frustration. Lauren van Huisstede, an Arizona State University researcher and co-author of this series, loved the rich, resonant sound of the cello. As an adult, she decided to learn the instrument for herself. For months, practice became a lesson in persistence, but one note on the D string—a stubborn F sharp—seemed impossible to produce cleanly. One day, something changed. “I realized I just needed to shift my fingers slightly forward,” she shares, “changing the angle that the pads of my fingers press into the string ever so slightly. I took up my bow, drew it across the string, and lo and behold… a clear, ringing F sharp. I felt joy, peace, and pride.” A clear note, vibrating through the fingers, ringing true. A moment of joy. Her moment of joy didn’t lead to mastering the cello. She was (and still very much is) a beginner. The joy came from discovery, from finally hearing what was possible, and it made her …

‘Then who or what did we cremate?’ Daughter’s horror at finding bones in British wildfire victims’ car | UK news

‘Then who or what did we cremate?’ Daughter’s horror at finding bones in British wildfire victims’ car | UK news

Published by Sam Flores

When Danielle Gillam-Kirton’s parents, Pete and Fran Gillam, were killed in July’s Spanish wildfires, she felt her nightmare could get no worse. The much-loved couple had built their home in Bédar in Almería after retirement, becoming part of a tight-knit community. Fran, a former headteacher, loved to organise quiz nights to raise money for the local school and the couple enjoyed playing padel at a nearby sports club. Spanish police told Gillam-Kirton that the vehicle in which her parents died had been “inspected meticulously” and no possessions had been found. But Gillam-Kirton, an assistant headteacher from Nottinghamshire, was sure her parents must have been wearing their wedding rings when they died. She was invited to search the vehicle herself, which was parked in a police compound in Mojácar. “You won’t find anything,” she was told. Fran Gillam with her daughter Danielle Gillam-Kirton. Photograph: Danielle Kirton She describes crying out in shock when she looked through the door of the burnt-out car. On the front seats was what appeared to be a human hip bone. “I …

‘Men calling us woke need our show more than most’: punks Piss on finding strength in visceral confrontations of sexual violence | Music

‘Men calling us woke need our show more than most’: punks Piss on finding strength in visceral confrontations of sexual violence | Music

Published by Sam Flores

You’d be hard pressed to find a band with fewer airs and graces than Piss. First, there’s the unavoidable matter of their name, which they style in all caps, no nonsense; a word that scans as vulgar and combative but also somewhat facetious when displayed on their merch in loopy cursive, sometimes decorated with bows. The Vancouver quartet’s music is a merciless cyclone of hardcore, poetry, sound collage and performance art that revolves entirely around singer Taylor Zantingh’s experiences with sexual violence. On stage at Eindhoven’s Hit the City festival in late August, the band greets the stacked crowd with a trigger warning before drummer Garreth Roberts, bassist Gavin Moya and guitarist Tyler Paterson launch into pulverising fits of noise-punk, broken up by audio samples of children laughing and feminist writer Andrea Dworkin talking about pornography. Zantingh hurls herself around, clutching at her stomach and flinging her pigtails before winding down to a nervous, twitching standstill. The intense set is finely tuned to present a narrative of gender-based violence not as entertainment, but as lived …

Facing California’s housing crisis, seniors are finding young roommates — and companionship

Facing California’s housing crisis, seniors are finding young roommates — and companionship

Published by Sam Flores

Housing stories in California can leave me feeling, well, depressed. Thousands of vacant lots that could be used for housing, but remain empty. Affordable home options shrinking. Aging Californians staying in their too-big homes, limiting market availability. Alas, you get the point. But as I was reporting that last story, I stumbled upon a trend that left me with some unexpected warm fuzzies: an uptick in intergenerational roommates. An increasing number of California seniors with extra space in their homes — often empty nesters — are considering bringing in younger roommates to help pay bills and, in the process, provide renters with affordable housing. For both parties, there’s the added bonus of companionship, which studies have shown has a slew of benefits. “I enjoy the company, and these younger folks, they keep me on my toes,” said Rudy Ramirez, a homeowner who used a local nonprofit to find renters for his three-bedroom home in the Bay Area enclave of Foster City. “I’m 74 years young!” His 31-year-old housemate, Sarah Lawlor, pays him $900 a month …

Android’s new trick for finding lost items without a tracker rolls out soon

Android’s new trick for finding lost items without a tracker rolls out soon

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Summary Android 16+ users will soon be able to ask Gemini to save the locations of untagged items in Find Hub. Saved locations and optional photos will appear in Find Hub’s new Remembered tab and can also be retrieved by asking Gemini. This isn’t real-time tracking: Gemini only remembers the location you provide, making Bluetooth trackers better for frequently moved items. Android is getting a new way to find belongings without attaching a tracker to them. Google says you’ll soon be able to tell Gemini where you placed something, and Find Hub will save that information for later. You could say, “Hey Google, remember in Find Hub that I put my spare house key in the kitchen junk drawer,” and add an optional photo. When the key inevitably vanishes from your memory, you can ask Gemini where it is or open the new Remembered tab in Find Hub. The feature is coming to Android 16+ devices in the US and other countries where Gemini and Find Hub are supported. Related I turned my notes app …

Finding a Path Forward After Sibling Abuse

Finding a Path Forward After Sibling Abuse

Published by Jenni Sidey

This post was co-authored with Amy Meyers, Ph.D., LCSW You can find help that will help move you forward and find healthy relationships, even if this one never will be. Once you know this was abusive behavior, trauma therapy is out there in a variety of forms, and you can learn about your true self, your values, and create a plan for a better life that speaks to you inside. —Testimonial submitted to the SAARA Story Archive Adults who have survived childhood and/or adolescent experiences of sibling abuse may continue to struggle with the long-term emotional outcomes. The impacts of sibling abuse occur both as it is happening and well into adulthood. Adult survivors often face challenges in managing anger and conflict, navigating sibling and family relationships, and finding healing and a path forward. Managing Anger and Conflict For many people, anger is a complicated emotion. It may surface quickly, feel too strong for the current situation, or, alternatively, feel entirely unavailable. As children, survivors of sibling abuse likely lacked safe opportunities to express anger, …

Finding Calm at the Water’s Edge

Finding Calm at the Water’s Edge

Published by Jenni Sidey

If I wore a mood ring, today it would be blue. Dark and murky blue. That blue the sky gets just before a storm. The color of a Monday that dawned too early with too much on my mind and too much on my plate. Every once in a while, I feel this way. Chalk it up to one of the astrological hazards of Sagittarian life. It happens whenever the archer in me aims so high that the distance between where I am and where I want to be seems unattainable. At times like this I know that, at least for me, there’s only one cure. As always, I tell myself I don’t have time for this. Got to get to work. Got to get going. And yet, myself tells me I don’t have any choice. Before I change my mind, I hop in the car and get it started, hoping it will do the same for me. Winding down the road, I hit the brakes as I come up behind an old Oldsmobile. At …