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You Can Tell Someone Has A Pure Heart By These 10 Phrases They Say In Casual Conversation

You Can Tell Someone Has A Pure Heart By These 10 Phrases They Say In Casual Conversation

Published by Jenni Sidey

These days, it’s hard to find people who have good intentions for others. But where there are individuals who are untrustworthy and selfish, there are plenty of others are are pure-hearted. These people don’t always express that through actions, but through the language they use and the intention behind their words. You can tell someone has a pure heart by certain phrases they say in casual conversation. It may not seem obvious, but they’re talking this way to offer comfort and authenticity to someone in need. Instead of holding ill will towards others, even those they don’t know, a person with a pure heart will never treat someone unkindly, because they lead with true empathy. You can tell someone has a pure heart by these 10 phrases they say in casual conversation 1. ‘How are you, really?’ DexonDee | Shutterstock Some people don’t care about anyone but themselves. They may ask how they’re doing in passing, but it’s not because they want to know every detail. But a person with a pure heart asks this …

11 Brilliant Ways Highly Intelligent Women Stop Being Nice As They Get Older

11 Brilliant Ways Highly Intelligent Women Stop Being Nice As They Get Older

Published by Jenni Sidey

As women get older, there’s often a change that happens in how they deal with life and the people they encounter. It makes sense considering a woman’s social value tends to diminish with age. When women reach a certain point of adulthood, they tend to be less represented within the media, and maybe that explains why the older a woman gets, the less she cares about trying to be “nice” to people. It doesn’t mean they become rude and standoffish, but that they start living life for themselves rather than trying to appease anyone else. The brilliant ways highly intelligent women stop being “nice” as they get older revolve around no longer feeling interested in trying to smooth things over for anyone else while ignoring their own needs. It’s them becoming way more honest about what works for them, and the things that don’t are instantly shown the door. Here are 11 brilliant ways highly intelligent women stop being ‘nice’ as they get older 1. They stop over-explaining Raushan_films | Shutterstock As they age, highly …

The kindness of strangers: I was lost in the pouring rain – then a man came along with a big rainbow umbrella | Australian lifestyle

The kindness of strangers: I was lost in the pouring rain – then a man came along with a big rainbow umbrella | Australian lifestyle

Published by Sam Flores

It was bucketing down, absolutely pouring. I was on my way to a birthday dinner but got lost in central Sydney’s labyrinth of streets, so I ducked into an internet cafe to look up directions to the restaurant. I then wrote those directions down by hand – such were the times! As I stepped out of the cafe, I realised just how bad the weather had become and how ill-prepared I was for the rain. As I stood waiting to cross the road, swiftly getting wet, a man waiting for the lights in the opposite direction offered up his big rainbow umbrella to share. I gratefully accepted and, still a little unsure of where I was going, asked if he knew the way to the restaurant. The man walked out of his way to get me on to the right street, then handed me the umbrella. “Here, you take this,” he said. I protested but he waved me off, saying he didn’t have far to go. Then he walked off in the other direction, through …

Kind People Who Lack Friends In Midlife Usually Learned 10 Hard Lessons Pretty Early On

Kind People Who Lack Friends In Midlife Usually Learned 10 Hard Lessons Pretty Early On

Published by Jenni Sidey

Not only are friendships necessary for good health and well-being, they also guide us through life. And while we’d like to think that we’ll have these strong friendships in our lives forever, only around 17% of people manage to keep the same best friend for over 30 years. But when people don’t have this support system, it’s not because they’re bad people. In fact, it might have more to do with how kind and agreeable they are. Kind people who lack friends in midlife usually learned some hard lessons pretty early on, and that’s affected the kinds of people they keep around them at this stage in life. Whether it’s the fact that boundaries are necessary or that trust should never be given freely, these individuals have likely come to terms with their empty social life. Kind people who lack friends in midlife usually learned 10 hard lessons pretty early on 1. Boundaries are a need, not a want GaudiLab | Shutterstock Most people are terrified of boundaries, whether it’s with their friends or partner. …

If You Are Extremely Careful Not To Do 11 Rude Things, Your Parents Knew What They Were Doing

If You Are Extremely Careful Not To Do 11 Rude Things, Your Parents Knew What They Were Doing

Published by Jenni Sidey

Everyone veers into impolite patterns of behavior over the course of a lifetime, but there’s a big difference between being a rude person and someone who makes a mistake. If you’re one of those people who does their best to avoid being rude, it means your parents raised you right. Sometimes rudeness is an accidental outcome, like a person with ADHD who struggles to be on time. Other times, it’s a sign someone is innately selfish. Regardless, you can thank your parents if you are one of those special people who avoids hurting others by being rude. If you are extremely careful not yo do 11 rude things, your parents knew what they were doing 1. Talking over people Antonio Guillem | Shutterstock If you avoid talking over people, your parents did a great job raising you. Flat-out.  Conversations follow a natural pattern: one person speaks and the other person listens, waiting to share their thoughts until after the first person has finished. This pattern lets conversations flow comfortably and helps avoid rude behaviors, like …

If People Keep Disrespecting You, These 9 Kind Traits Might Explain Why

If People Keep Disrespecting You, These 9 Kind Traits Might Explain Why

Published by Jenni Sidey

It really is true that the more kind and compassionate you are, the more you’ll have to deal with people trying to test how far your kindness goes. Some of the best people find themselves in constant situations where they’re facing off against some form of rudeness. Good-hearted people truly care about the feelings of others, so they never really stop to consider when they’re being mistreated themselves. When you’re a kind person, you tend to give second chances or overlook the way people act towards you altogether. If people keep disrespecting you, certain kind traits might explain why, and it’s not usually because you’re avoiding the conflict. In fact, you would just much rather let it slide off your back. Because this tactic also reveals some of your best qualities. If people keep disrespecting you, these 9 kind traits might explain why 1. You’re generous with your time KomootP | Shutterstock You’re the type of person that will drop everything to support your friends or even people in need. You’re someone that’s always readily …

15 years since a deadly tornado brought Joplin, Mo. together, kindness carries on : NPR

15 years since a deadly tornado brought Joplin, Mo. together, kindness carries on : NPR

Published by Sam Flores

In the aftermath of the tornado, thousands of volunteers came to help Joplin from around the country. Many wrote messages of hope on this tornado-damaged house, and later, Joplin residents wrote a thank-you message to the volunteers. FEMA hide caption toggle caption FEMA Nanda Nunnelly had just come home from a weekend out of town when a massive, multi-vortex tornado ripped through Joplin, Missouri on May 22, 2011. The sky, she says, had a sickly green tinge. When the tornado sirens went off, she jumped in a closet with her husband and dog. “ Within just seconds… it was so loud that it was quiet,” remembers Nunnelly. While crouched in the closet, she wondered if the 200 mph winds would take her, and she started praying. “If I’m dying, dear God, please don’t let it hurt,’” she remembers thinking. Nunelly survived that day, but her house was destroyed, and a third of the city’s population was displaced. The tornado, recorded at three-quarters of a mile wide, was one of the deadliest in recorded U.S. history, taking …

The One Thing Standing Between Most People And Happiness Is Surprisingly Personal

The One Thing Standing Between Most People And Happiness Is Surprisingly Personal

Published by Jenni Sidey

One of the first things we’re taught as little kids is to use our words. And, once we start talking, it’s a lifelong lesson in how to be polite and treat other people the way that we’d want to be treated.  The way we address and speak to others is a huge part of maturing into adulthood, and it is constantly reinforced to speak to others with kindness. Yet, even with all this kindness in words being shared, finding happiness isn’t easy.  Anyone who truly embraces being happy eventually has to overcome a surprisingly personal obstacle: They have to get over themselves Monkey Business Images via Shutterstock That sounds like a joke, but seriously, take a moment to consider how we talk to ourselves. Research has found that hearing your own voice activates memory and self-reflection areas in the brain. The same areas are not activated when others speak positively to you. This helps make positive self-talk a useful tool to help you let go of negative thought patterns while better regulating your emotions. Happiness …

The kindness of strangers: A driver warned me I was being followed, then made sure I got home safely | Women

The kindness of strangers: A driver warned me I was being followed, then made sure I got home safely | Women

Published by Sam Flores

The Sydney suburb of Darlinghurst was not a safe place in the 1980s. There was this jittery vibe when the next heroin batch was coming in and people were overdosing like mad. But the area was also home to a scene of people who were into making little films or art and just going to the clubs in great clothes and dancing our butts off. I was one of them – 23, quite pretty and a hip underground darling. One night I was walking home from Oxford Street after clubbing. I was always wary of my surroundings, because you grew up very quickly living in that area. But it was a nice night for a walk so I went for it. I remember how dark it was; a slender moon offering little in the way of light. Not long after I set off I got the feeling someone was following me. I stopped, turned around but couldn’t see anyone. I continued walking, heard footsteps behind me and turned again. “Is anyone there?” I yelled out. …

Uber kindness, white settlement police, Parkinson’s guitar therapy, and more good news today

Uber kindness, white settlement police, Parkinson’s guitar therapy, and more good news today

Published by Jenni Sidey

Even when the broader news cycle feels heavy, these stories show people still making time to return what was lost, build what is needed, clean up what is left behind, and show up when someone else is in danger or pain. From an Uber driver returning a treasured necklace to students cleaning Churchill Downs, an ATV group rallying around a sick child, and police using jumper cables to save a mother from floodwater, the details carry the heart of the news. The Kindness of Strangers Reunited Me with a Treasured Heirloom The author’s grandmother Marika (right) and her heirloom necklace. (CREDIT: Ilona Bannister) Ilona Bannister was six when her grandmother Marika taught her how to swim. As Bannister floated on her back, she stared at the enamel medallion around Marika’s neck, a tiny Ukrainian icon of Mary that her grandmother always wore. When Bannister was 16, Marika died, and the necklace became hers. Years later, after Bannister had her first child, she put it on and rarely took it off. It felt like a way …