When OCD Wrecks Love | Psychology Today
Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a celebration of love and romance, but if you have romance-related OCD, also known as ROCD, then the recent celebration of love may have instead been a trigger for obsessions and compulsions around trying to determine if the person you are with is the right person. Doubt about whether your partner is truly the love of your life can become overwhelming and trap you in a vicious cycle of constantly questioning the quality of your love or your partner’s. It can prompt you to break up prematurely, then make up, and then repeat the cycle repeatedly without ever reaching any certainty about whether you made the right decision. You are left with the burning question, “How do I know if this person is the right one for me?” When ROCD invades a relationship, it can become difficult to discern when OCD is in operation versus normal caution about wanting a high-quality relationship. It is easy for both clients and their well-intentioned therapists to end up in a pointless argument …


