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You Can Tell A Couple Is Headed For Divorce By These 10 Behaviors That Slowly Become Normal

You Can Tell A Couple Is Headed For Divorce By These 10 Behaviors That Slowly Become Normal

Published by Jenni Sidey

There are many reasons that couples consider divorce, including unresolved empathic ruptures, lack of compatibility, or lack of romantic connection.  No matter the reasons underlying your marital dissatisfaction, divorce is a difficult decision to make, particularly if there are children involved.  Here are some of the most common decision points I see in my practice that make people feel that it is definitely time to move forward with separation and divorce. You can tell a couple is headed for divorce by these 10 behaviors that slowly become normal: 1. You can no longer envision a healthy or positive future with your partner You become increasingly aware that you and your partner have very different views of how the future would look, and you cannot imagine feeling fulfilled if you remained together.  Alternatively, you may not even be able to visualize a future with your partner at all, and you may even realize that you and your partner never spoke much about specifics of your future together (e.g., post-retirement, with kids out of the house, etc), …

One of Madagascar’s Oldest Sacred Trees Is Slowly Dying

One of Madagascar’s Oldest Sacred Trees Is Slowly Dying

Published by Sam Flores

The first sign that the tree was in trouble was the scent — a musty odor that cut through the warm forest air. “It smelled like mushrooms but worse, like decomposition,” said Cyrille Cornu, a French researcher who visited the tree, an ancient baobab that locals call Tsitakakantsa, last October in southwest Madagascar. Approaching the massive trunk in the island nation’s Andombiry Forest, Mr. Cornu’s heart sank. A dark, foul-smelling liquid was seeping from the base of the tree. “I was surprised because I never saw this before,” said Mr. Cornu, who specializes in baobabs and has visited the tree several times over the last 15 years. He thought to himself: “Something is wrong.” Tsitakakantsa, one of the largest and oldest baobab trees in Madagascar, is dying, according to experts and local stewards. Having survived centuries, it appears to have entered a final phase in which it will buckle, collapse and eventually disintegrate. It could take months, maybe longer. Eventually, only a patch of stained earth — like a shadow in the soil — will …

Slowly does it: how to be patient in a world that wants everything right now | Life and style

Slowly does it: how to be patient in a world that wants everything right now | Life and style

Published by Sam Flores

Your kids want to know why their new book (ordered 18 hours ago) is “taking so long” and need you “NOW” because Netflix “isn’t loading” (it “tu-dums” milliseconds later). For parents who had dial-up internet, endless TV adverts and long car journeys soundtracked by Dad’s AM Test cricket, modern kids’ inability to be patient can feel galling. Except, with our Deliveroo habit and boiling-water taps (who has time for a kettle?), we can be just as bad. “Our environment and culture has trained our nervous systems to expect immediacy,” says Anna Mathur, psychotherapist and author of How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don’t). “The issue is our brains are plastic; they adapt to the level of easy dopamine we’ve got at our fingertips.” Our brains are changing, confirms child psychologist Dr Michele McDowell: “A recent study indicated the brain instantly responds to notifications and takes seven seconds to refocus. Consequently, the brain is becoming overstimulated and is increasingly more responsive. Over time, this erodes the brain’s …

11 No-Big-Deal Phrases That Slowly Destroy Relationships Over Time

11 No-Big-Deal Phrases That Slowly Destroy Relationships Over Time

Published by Jenni Sidey

Long-term relationships aren’t always easy to maintain. No matter how much we love our partners, it takes work to keep each other happy. When we become too comfortable with our significant other, we might say things that end up hurting them over time. These phrases are often said without the intention of hurting the other person. Sometimes, it’s simple commentary that can get under their skin over time. Sayings like ‘I’m fine’ even though you are not, or ‘I don’t care’ when you do, can add up. The impact of these phrases may unfold over time. From silent resentment to a full-blown breakup, couples may struggle with these phrases that seem like no big deal. Here are 11 no-big-deal phrases that slowly destroy relationships over time 1. ‘It’s fine’ LightFieldStudios from Getty Images via Canva No matter how happy your relationship is, your feelings are bound to get hurt. It’s part of life. We can’t expect our partner to know exactly what to do and say at all times. When feelings get hurt, it’s important …

Every time you save a photo to an SD card, you’re slowly destroying it from the inside

Every time you save a photo to an SD card, you’re slowly destroying it from the inside

Published by skeptic

We treat SD cards like digital vaults. They live in our cameras, Nintendo Switches, and Raspberry Pis for years, and we just assume that as long as the plastic casing isn’t cracked, our data is safe. That assumption is largely a mistake. SD cards have a fundamental design flaw: they are consumable items with a pre-determined expiration date. They don’t usually “break” in the traditional sense. Instead, they rot from the inside out. It’s one of the many reasons some folks no longer trust memory cards. Related 5 signs that mean your PC parts are failing Your PC doesn’t fail suddenly. It glitches, screams, and eats your files first. How flash memory wears out — and why your SD card has an expiration date Why every save, delete, and overwrite slowly destroy your card from the inside SD cards use NAND flash storage. Unlike old-school hard drives with physical spinning platters, flash memory stores data by trapping electrons inside microscopic cells. It sounds high-tech, but it’s remarkably fragile. Every time you save a file, move …

My phone was charging painfully slowly until I switched to this type of charger

My phone was charging painfully slowly until I switched to this type of charger

Published by skeptic

I don’t want to alarm you, but there’s a good chance that you’re charging your phone wrong. If that statement has flustered you, go ahead and take a few deep breaths. With so much of our lives now lived through smartphones, the notion that your mobile might be juicing up more slowly than you like is probably disconcerting. I know it’s a mistake I certainly made for years. Thankfully, the days of my iPhone 14 Pro charging slower than an obese bull stuck in treacle are very much over. Ever since I picked up a particular type of charger in a sale last Black Friday, my Apple device now jumps to 100% battery in a relative flash. If you’re unsatisfied with how quickly your phone is charging, hopefully the following power adapter tip can help you out. Say hello to GaN chargers A smaller, faster, and more efficient way to power up your devices Jowi Morales / MakeUseOfCredit: Jowi Morales / MakeUseOf Enter GaN (Gallium Nitride) chargers. When I needed a new power adapter for my …

People Who Fall In Love Slowly Usually Share These 11 Deep Personality Traits

People Who Fall In Love Slowly Usually Share These 11 Deep Personality Traits

Published by Jenni Sidey

There are two types of people in the dating scene: those who fall in love slowly and those who fall in love fast. People who fall in love quickly tend to love bomb their partners — or at the very least, appear to do that. People who fall in love slowly, on the other hand, are a little more difficult. If you’ve dated one, you probably didn’t know where you stand with them. You’ve probably spent hours wondering when they will call, whether they’ll ask you out again, and more. It’s rough, but the payoff is that they’re more likely to stick around. You can usually figure out who’s the type to fall for you slowly before you date. These personality traits suggest they’ll want to take things slow. People who fall in love slowly usually share these 11 deep personality traits 1. They are planners who know what they do and do not want in their future Rido / Shutterstock People who fall in love slowly don’t fall with their hearts. Rather, they fall …

A Mystery Phone, Found in the Desert, Slowly Reveals Its Secrets

A Mystery Phone, Found in the Desert, Slowly Reveals Its Secrets

Published by skeptic

Everyone who loves mysteries secretly hopes that one day life will drop an intriguing puzzle into their lap for them to solve. Maybe not an Agatha Christie-type crime, but something that will send them on a real-world chase to connect the dots and land at a satisfying conclusion. That’s exactly what happened to Katie Elkin, a retired teacher with a penchant for mysteries. “I’m 84 and I have lived a full, wonderful life,” she tells me over a video call from her home in Prescott, Arizona. Until now, Elkin’s mysteries have largely been genealogy-based. She recounts an extraordinary story about making friends with a woman from California and discovering that their grandfathers had trained together in the Army and then shipped out to France in World War I on the same day. “That’s my whole life,” she says. “It’s coincidences.” On this Friday in February, we’re talking about another coincidence in Elkin’s life — one of finding a phone, lost for a decade in the desert, and Elkin’s attempt to reunite it with its owner.  …

The House | “We’re Not Squeamish”: Westminster Is Slowly Waking Up To The Birth Rate Crisis

The House | “We’re Not Squeamish”: Westminster Is Slowly Waking Up To The Birth Rate Crisis

Published by Sam Flores

The total fertility rate in England and Wales dropped to 1.41 in 2024 (Alamy Live News) 13 min read14 December Parents of pre-school children in London are delighted: thanks to our collapsing birth rate, it seems the catchment areas of good local state schools keep getting bigger. But there are major downsides to declining fertility – the small question of how to sustain our economy and public finances with a rapidly ageing population, for example. With the total fertility rate in England and Wales continuing to drop – reaching 1.41 in 2024, well below the replacement rate of 2.1 – the reality of a shrinking workforce, reduced tax revenues and unaffordable state pensions is looming. We are looking not just at a one-off population contraction but at each generation being smaller than the one before. The newly published American national security strategy lists “cratering birthrates” as one of Europe’s major problems and a contributing factor to the “stark prospect of civilisational erasure”. While Westminster dwellers might be expected to take an …