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11 Sly Phrases Tricky People Use To Make You Think They’re Listening When They Couldn’t Care Less

11 Sly Phrases Tricky People Use To Make You Think They’re Listening When They Couldn’t Care Less

Published by Jenni Sidey

Everyone wants to be heard and understood. In fact, when people don’t feel understood, scientists can actually see differences in their brains. It’s part of being human! That’s why it’s easy to fall for tricky people when they use sneaky phrases that make it sound like they’re listening. In reality, they couldn’t care less. In order to tell the difference, you need to be on the lookout for not just these shallow affirmations that don’t actually offer any insight or support. You also need to watch how they say these sly phrases, and what they do before an after. Only then can you decide if this person actually has your best interests at heart.  11 sly phrases tricky people use to make you think they’re listening when they couldn’t care less 1. ‘I see where you’re coming from’ simona pilolla 2 | Shutterstock Using the phrase “I see where you’re coming from” is one of the sly phrases used by people pretending to care when they aren’t actually listening. They seem attentive, but they’re not …

10 Sly Ways High-IQ People Win Arguments Even When They’re Wrong

10 Sly Ways High-IQ People Win Arguments Even When They’re Wrong

Published by Jenni Sidey

For smart people, “winning” arguments isn’t about getting the last word in or being “right.” It’s about being the person who creates productive conversations, solutions, and peace. Yes, they might be interested in challenging an idea or leaning into the discomfort of taboo topics, but they’re not intentionally trying to “win” arguments at someone else’s expense. In fact, their distaste with competition during conflict is actually what strengthens their relationships, and the sly ways these high-IQ “win” arguments, even when they’re wrong, have nothing to do with status, prestige, or being “correct.” Here are 10 sly ways high-IQ people win arguments even when they’re wrong 1. They create space and walk away PeopleImages | Shutterstock There’s a reason why taking space from someone and walking away from an unproductive conversation are collectively coined the “sixth love language.” Sometimes, when we get caught up in a moment and let anger take over, we don’t just hurt our own chances to learn, we also attack and harm others along the way. High-IQ people have no problem taking …

Exclusive: Elizabeth Debicki Explains the Sly, Sparkling Royals Reference In Her Vintage Tiara and Vera Wang Gown

Exclusive: Elizabeth Debicki Explains the Sly, Sparkling Royals Reference In Her Vintage Tiara and Vera Wang Gown

Published by Sam Flores

During fittings this weekend, Wang, Debicki, and her longtime stylist Elizabeth Saltzman figured out how to make the regal headpiece work with the romantic gown. “The dress wanted something, but it didn’t want it to sort of overpower anything,” Debicki says. “Then my brilliant stylist just went, ‘Why don’t we just turn it around and put it on the back of your head?’ There were 10 people in the room, and everyone went, ‘Oh, yeah.’” Photographer Elias Tahan Photographer Elias Tahan Saltzman and Wang, both former editors at Vogue, have known each other for years, and Debicki said that working on the dress as it evolved over 12 sketches and iterations was an educational experience. “It was like being sat in front of a documentary that I didn’t even know I wanted to watch about fashion,” she says. “For me, I was just eating Swedish fish, just watching them talk for hours.” Her appropriately Grecian sandals were made custom by London-based Footwear for Film, and the details were hand-foiled. Debicki made a special trip to …

High IQ People Use These 14 Sly Psychological Tricks To Change Minds & Win Almost Any Argument | Sidhharrth S Kumaar

High IQ People Use These 14 Sly Psychological Tricks To Change Minds & Win Almost Any Argument | Sidhharrth S Kumaar

Published by Jenni Sidey

Everyone likes to win an argument, but only a few high IQ people know to use the psychological tricks that actually change someone’s mind. The key is to keep yourself steady and provide reasons, winning them over with facts rather than big feelings.  These sly psychological skills are helpful in life, well beyond debates or arguments. They support your career, financial negotiations, relationships, and even your friendships. Knowing how to win any argument is the first step towards success, but only if you are able to keep that relationship intact afterward.  High IQ people use these 14 sly psychological tricks to change minds & win almost any argument 1. They keep themselves calm George Milton | Pexels High IQ people know that, in order to change minds and win arguments, they need to keep themselves calm. If they get rattled, cry or shout, they will lose focus and drive people away.  It’s great to be enthusiastic about your opinion, but it’s important to maintain your composure. Stay in control of your emotions, as you lose …

Zelenskyy Plays His Cards Right With A Sly Dig At Trump

Zelenskyy Plays His Cards Right With A Sly Dig At Trump

Published by Sam Flores

Volodymyr Zelenskyy has mocked Donald Trump after the US asked for Ukraine’s help in defeating Iranian drones. The US president humiliated his Ukrainian counterpart in February last year by attacking him in the Oval Office in front of the press. He claimed Zelenskyy did not “hold the cards” when it came to Russia’s invasion of Ukraine, suggesting Kyiv needed to compromise against its aggressor in the name of peace. Trump has since withdrawn direct military support for Ukraine amid their wavering alliance, though America does still provide vital intelligence to the beleaguered country. But the US is now combating the same Iranian drones in the Middle East that Ukrainians have been taking down for more than four years. After “requests from the American side,” Zelenskyy said last week that he would deploy Ukrainian specialists to assist. In a new interview, the Ukrainian president said it was a “good feeling” now the tables have turned. He said: “We’re proud that we can help American partners.” Asked if he would say Ukraine has the cards now, Zelenskyy …

The S***heads review, Royal Court Theatre – Violent Stone Age cannibals are brought to life with a sly modern twist

The S***heads review, Royal Court Theatre – Violent Stone Age cannibals are brought to life with a sly modern twist

Published by Daniella Wilson

Get the latest entertainment news, reviews and star-studded interviews with our Independent Culture email Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter There’s plenty to chew on in the Royal Court’s new play The S***heads – not just raw elk meat and cannibalised brain matter. Though there’s a good amount of that too: for the paleolithic characters that populate Jack Nicholls’ thoughtful debut, acts of barbaric violence are just part of the prosaic everyday. The S***heads (censorship The Independent’s) transports us to the Stone Age, where we meet a three-person family of cave-dwellers: capable and curious Clare (Jacoba Williams), her ailing father Adrian (Peter Clements), and younger sister Lisa (Annabel Smith), supposedly a teen but with a sort of infantile pluck – think Margaret O’Brien in Meet Me in St Louis. That she is played by a fully grown woman is but one blithe anachronism in a staging that’s full of them: characters speak in modern English, have modern names, and wear items …

10 of the greatest songs by Sly Dunbar – from reggae classics to Grace Jones and Bob Dylan | Reggae

10 of the greatest songs by Sly Dunbar – from reggae classics to Grace Jones and Bob Dylan | Reggae

Published by Sam Flores

Dave and Ansel Collins – Double Barrel (1970) It isn’t Sly Dunbar’s most spectacular performance as a drummer – although his playing is right in the pocket: listen to the lightness of his touch on the cymbals and the tightness of his occasional fills – but as recording debuts go, appearing on an early 70s reggae classic in your teens, a single that furthermore went to No 1 in the UK and sold 300,000 copies despite British radio’s disinclination to play it, is quite the impressive way to open your account. The Mighty Diamonds – Right Time (1976) The Mighty Diamonds’ debut album Right Time effectively made Sly and Robbie’s name, helping to popularise the new “rockers” rhythm in reggae. It’s all great, but if you want to see how impactful Dunbar’s playing was on the sound, head straight to the title track. The beat he plays is complex, a world away from the “one-drop” rhythm that had predominated in reggae: so complex, in fact, that Dunbar claimed other drummers initially refused to believe he’d …

Sly Dunbar death: Legendary Sly and Robbie reggae drummer dies aged 73

Sly Dunbar death: Legendary Sly and Robbie reggae drummer dies aged 73

Published by Daniella Wilson

Get the inside track from Roisin O’Connor with our free weekly music newsletter Now Hear This Get our free music newsletter Now Hear This Get our free music newsletter Now Hear This Sly Dunbar, one of the most revered drummers in the history of reggae music, has died. He was 73. Dunbar and bassist Robbie Shakespeare, known together as Sly & Robbie, worked together as a rhythm section and as a production duo. Shakespeare died in 2021, at the age of 68. They collaborated on hundreds of songs together, from early reggae recordings with singers Peter Tosh and Bunny Wailer through to later collaborations with mainstream pop and rock artists such as Mick Jagger, Bob Dylan and Grace Jones. Dunbar’s death was announced by his wife Thelma, who told The Jamaica Gleaner: “About seven o’clock this morning I went to wake him up and he wasn’t responding, I called the doctor and that was the news.” She added that he had been experiencing a period of ill health, but that his death still came as …

The Night Manager season two review – It’s been a decade, but the pace, intrigue and sly sexiness are all retained

The Night Manager season two review – It’s been a decade, but the pace, intrigue and sly sexiness are all retained

Published by Daniella Wilson

Get the latest entertainment news, reviews and star-studded interviews with our Independent Culture email Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter TV viewers have become accustomed to increasingly lengthy waits between seasons of their favourite shows. Stranger Things took three years between its fourth and fifth seasons, while Euphoria will be back next year, more than four years after it was last on air. But BBC One’s The Night Manager – which returns this week after a 10-year hiatus – takes the biscuit. When last we followed the adventures of Tom Hiddleston’s Jonathan Pine, David Cameron and Barack Obama were still in office, the Paris Climate Accords had just been adopted, and Covid-19 was just a glint in a pangolin’s eye. So, you’d be forgiven for not knowing quite what to expect from the return of John Le Carré’s taciturn hero. Several years on from the events of the first season, Pine – now known as Alex Goodwin – is leading a …