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You Can Usually Tell How Smart Someone Is By These 10 Things They Do Pretty Much Every Day

You Can Usually Tell How Smart Someone Is By These 10 Things They Do Pretty Much Every Day

High-IQ people have strong mental faculties and cognitive skills, which is why their intelligence is measured through testing. However, a high IQ doesn’t necessarily mean someone is smart. You can usually tell how smart someone is by certain things they do pretty much every day, not by a test score or an accumulation of knowledge. Whether it’s little hobbies like reading or experiences like talking to a stranger, their intelligence is proven and exercised through more noticeable habits and hobbies. You can usually tell how smart someone is by these 10 things they do pretty much every day 1. They change their minds simona pilolla 2 | Shutterstock Especially because they’re open to asking questions, leaning into things they don’t understand, and letting people speak their mind without trying to prove their own “correctness,” it’s not surprising that smart people change their minds often. For people who are willing to adopt new information and learn without getting defensive, changing their mind is a natural part of life. However, you can often tell the difference between …

13 Rare Habits Of People Who Somehow Figure Things Out Faster Than Everyone Else | Sidhharrth S Kumaar

13 Rare Habits Of People Who Somehow Figure Things Out Faster Than Everyone Else | Sidhharrth S Kumaar

There are several routes to achievement, though it’s fascinating to see how similar the traits of successful individuals are. Research on high performers who figure things out fast across business, athletics, and creative fields consistently points to the same cluster of habits and mindsets that can be learned and practiced at any stage. If you want to be tremendously successful and live the life of your dreams, take your cues from those who have already done it. Grit and a growth mindset mean that the more you push through, the more you come to believe that pushing through is possible, and that belief fuels the next push. Success is less a destination than a feedback loop. Many people continue to live lives that are remarkable, even if they began rather unremarkable.  Research on self-confidence has found a person’s belief in themselves to be one of the strongest indicators of achievement, shaping not only performance outcomes but also how persistently people pursue goals when obstacles arise. What makes this relevant is that personal confidence builds through …

Americans’ Reading Habits Stable Since 2011

Americans’ Reading Habits Stable Since 2011

Most American adults read a book (or part of one) in the last year, according to a new survey from the Pew Research Center. 📘 Print books maintain a wide lead. 64% of respondents reported reading a print book, compared to 31% reading ebooks and 26% reading audiobooks. 💃 More women than men read a book last year, but the split—78% of women, 71% of men—hardly supports the recurring panic about men’s reading habits. 🙋‍♀️ Adults under 50 were more likely than older adults to report reading a book in the last year. 💬 Book clubs are rare. Just 7% of American adults (10% of women, 5% of men) have participated in the last year. 💪 Power readers unite: only 14% of Americans read 20+ books in the last 12 months. What to make of the fact that this data stands in sharp contrast to last year’s widely-reported finding that only 16% of Americans reported reading for pleasure? Differences in survey design could be a factor. Pew asks yes/no questions, whereas the data reported last …

6 Rare Habits Of Men Who Avoid A Midlife Crisis And Don’t Completely Ruin Their Lives | Greg Boudle

6 Rare Habits Of Men Who Avoid A Midlife Crisis And Don’t Completely Ruin Their Lives | Greg Boudle

Midlife has a reputation for making men do impulsive, life-altering things: quitting stable jobs, and ruining perfectly good relationships in search of something more. But not everyone goes down that path.  Some men go through this phase with clarity, which is often the result of a few habits that keep them tethered to real life.  Here are the six rare habits of men who avoid a midlife crisis and don’t completely ruin their lives: 1. Men who avoid a midlife crisis regularly practice mindfulness Mindfulness is the first step for a reason. You must let go of the beliefs and judgments you learned from your outer world. You’ll need to sit quietly and learn to be an observer rather than a first responder. One of the most powerful shifts a person can make is learning to think about their own thinking instead of just reacting to it, says psychologist Nick Wignall. That gap between a thought and your response to it is exactly where a meditation practice lives, and it is where real self-knowledge starts …

9 Expert Habits to Improve Your Relationships From Neuroscientist Amir Levine

9 Expert Habits to Improve Your Relationships From Neuroscientist Amir Levine

Create a shorthand of expectations “The five pillars of a secure life are: consistent, available, responsive, reliable, and predictable—or CARRP. I have a friend, we’ve been friends for a really, really long time. Around COVID time, there were times when we had ups and downs in that friendship. But now we have this new language of CARRP. “Because of this book launch, I’ve been so busy, and I think he called me twice, and I hadn’t responded. I hadn’t called back. And he called me again the other day, and he said, ‘Well, you haven’t been as responsive. You haven’t been CARRP lately.’ And I owned it. I immediately apologized, and I said, ‘You’re totally right.’ I explained what was going on, and that I’m so sorry. “He said, ‘No, no, it’s fine.’ But, in the past, without having this language, he might have sulked and not said anything. And if he had said something, I probably would’ve responded defensively. And there were periods of our friendship, we’ve been friends for 20 years, that we …

If You Felt Like You Had To Hide Who You Were Growing Up, You Likely Have These 11 Odd Habits Now

If You Felt Like You Had To Hide Who You Were Growing Up, You Likely Have These 11 Odd Habits Now

In life, we are often encouraged to wear masks or personas that are not who we truly are in order to live up to the expectations others have for us. At work, we’re expected to have a professional, prim persona and be passionate about work. At church, we’re expected to have a deeply spiritual and holy vibe. And at home? Well, it depends on how you were brought up. Many of us grew up in families that constantly encouraged us to hide who we were. If we were to say something that didn’t go with the desired narrative, it would cause a torrent of problems. So, we masked. Of course, this leads to a bunch of habits that can be hard to break as you get older. The habits below prove that masking never really conceals everything. If you felt like you had to hide who you were growing up, you likely have these 11 odd habits now 1. Saying, “I’m fine. Let’s talk about you. What’s going on with you?” Charday Penn from Getty …

11 Habits Truly Special People Find Boring

11 Habits Truly Special People Find Boring

While the adjectives “special” and even “authentic” are often elusive in meaning, their routines do take a different shape from those of the ordinary person. From intentional spending to avoiding mindless entertainment, there are certain habits that truly special people find boring that average people do consistently almost every single day. 1. Mindless entertainment and TV Prostock-studio | Shutterstock Mindless time in front of a TV can genuinely impact our health in so many ways, from poor eating habits to anxiety, and even mental health concerns like growing feelings of loneliness. For the average person, it’s a mode of escapism from quietness or internal turmoil, but for a specific, emotionally intelligent person, it’s just boring. They’re craving depth, and while they can sometimes get that human experience and connection from reality shows, they’re usually bored and unfulfilled by these popular mindless habits. RELATED: Naturally Curious People Who Do These 10 Things Are 97% Smarter Than Most 2. Superficial small talk we.bond.creations | Shutterstock Whether they’re introverts or incredibly smart people who seek depth, if someone doesn’t like small talk, they …

Stacking bad habits triples the risk of co-occurring anxiety and depression in teenagers

Stacking bad habits triples the risk of co-occurring anxiety and depression in teenagers

Adolescents who combine multiple unhealthy habits—like poor diet, too much screen time, and lack of exercise—face a significantly higher risk of experiencing both anxiety and depression, according to a new study published in BMC Psychiatry. Researchers have long known that individual habits, such as physical inactivity or poor sleep, can affect mental wellbeing. However, in real life, these behaviors rarely occur alone. Teenagers who skip meals, spend long hours on screens, and sleep poorly often do all of these at once. This “clustering” of unhealthy habits has been less studied, especially in relation to combined mental health conditions. To address this gap, researchers wanted to understand whether patterns of multiple unhealthy behaviors could predict which adolescents are most at risk of developing both anxiety and depression. Led by Xiaoyan Wu of Anhui Medical University in China, the research team followed 6,656 adolescents (average age 14 years; 52% female) over a one-year period. Students completed self-reported, smartphone-based surveys that assessed 15 lifestyle behaviors—including diet, physical activity, sleep patterns, alcohol consumption, suicidal behaviors, and screen time—as well …

Shisa Kanko: Japanese Method Can Help Avoid Mistakes

Shisa Kanko: Japanese Method Can Help Avoid Mistakes

If you’ve ever left the house only to wonder whether you turned off the stove or unplugged your curling tongs, you’re not alone. However, this uncertainty doesn’t have to be your destiny. In Japan, railway operators use a simple but powerful technique to avoid mistakes. And this method might be exactly what you need to stay focused on everyday tasks. It’s called “shisa kanko”. “Shisa kanko essentially means ‘pointing and calling,’ which is used to improve attentiveness and accuracy,” said Joy Gallon, a licensed therapist with Thriveworks. “It was developed as a method of ensuring safety on the Japanese railway system. Operators are trained to focus on and point at an object such as a signal or stopping point and verbally ‘call out’ the name of the object.” Research by Japan’s Railway Technical Research Institute in 1994 found that the practice of shisa kanko reduced incidents of human error by almost 85%. “Because the practice uses eyes, hands, mouth and ears, it actively engages the senses,” Gallon said. “Studies have shown that it increases the …

Adult Children Of Divorced Parents Often Develop 11 Quietly Self-Destructive Habits

Adult Children Of Divorced Parents Often Develop 11 Quietly Self-Destructive Habits

Adult children of divorced parents have experienced a wide array of childhood challenges, no two being exactly the same. Every year, nearly 1 million children in the U.S. experience this change, with some parents coparenting amicably, while other kids suffer enormously.  Despite these differences, these children often develop a few quietly self-destructive habits as adults. Fortunately, once these patterns are named, we can start identifying them and addressing them, and adult children of divorced parents can have happy, healthy lives.  Adult children of divorced parents often develop 11 quietly self-destructive habits 1. Sabotaging healthy relationships Krakenimages | Shutterstock There’s a sense of discomfort that many adult children of divorce unknowingly carry into adulthood. Often, it shows up when when they experience real love, even if they aren’t completely aware of the reasoning behind their discomfort. Because of this insecurity, many tend to self-sabotage healthy relationships in adulthood by exhibiting one or more destructive behaviors, as psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren suggests. From refusing to remain emotionally available out of fear to threatening a break up at every conflict, …