The 4 Words That Make Homework Battles Worse
“Just get it done.” You certainly mean that four-word phrase with good intentions. Those four words likely sound harmless to you. After all, you are being direct and looking out for your child’s best interests. So, why can’t you just say those words, and then your child or teen reengages in their homework or whatever assignments are due? Yet in my work with children and families, and in conversations with parents who consult me about their kids shutting down from schoolwork, this phrase marks the moment when things go sideways. Specifically, when kids hear “Just get it done,” they often retreat from taking action. That’s because they feel alone in what feels like impossible demands. So, they lose sight of what they can do and focus on the feelings of what they can’t do. And that often means that they shut down. Why These Words Backfire When a child is already feeling overwhelmed, unsure where to begin, and just plain old worried about making mistakes, “Just get it done” does not imbue motivation. Rather, it …









