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People Who Are Actually Different From Everyone Else Do 11 Things Pretty Consistently

People Who Are Actually Different From Everyone Else Do 11 Things Pretty Consistently

Published by Jenni Sidey

In today’s world, uniqueness isn’t hard to come by. Everyone’s trying on authenticity, wanting to be “different” and “cool” in a world of conformity. But how many of these people are truly authentic, instead of performing for the sake of seeking attention or validation? The kind of people who are actually different from everyone else do certain things pretty consistently, and rarely do they have to do with chasing or appeasing in the eyes of others. People who are actually different from everyone else do 11 things pretty consistently 1. They leave the house without distractions STEKLO | Shutterstock Despite pressures to stay distracted and stimulated in a world driven by a fear of stillness, truly unique, centered people leave the house without needing a companion. They don’t need headphones to go for a walk or a phone to keep them company in social settings. They’re not afraid to entertain themselves and spark up conversations with their neighbors on the train. Even if it’s just for one intentional day, as a study from the Industrial …

7 Fake-Nice Behaviors Controlling Men Try To Pass Off As Love

7 Fake-Nice Behaviors Controlling Men Try To Pass Off As Love

Published by Jenni Sidey

Have you ever had a friend who suddenly disappears off the social scene, changes her appearance, or gives up her goals and unique personality traits at the beginning of a relationship? Most likely, she’s been caught in the snare of an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship. Dating a guy who’s controlling can begin with seemingly insignificant details, which make you feel only minor irritation. (In fact, at first, he might even come across as nice and charming at first.) When left to run wild, however, you’ll find that these irritating, “insignificant” details are actually the early warning signs of emotional abuse, all for the benefit of feeding a guy’s need for domination and control. Here are the nice behaviors controlling men try to pass off as love: 1. He comes on strong Controlling guys will often immediately come on strong, which can be very flattering initially, but is a common sign of their need for control. Feelings, especially for men, develop over time, yet a controlling man will often make you feel as if he’s …

Bosses Who Micromanage Don’t Realize It Says More About Them Than The Workers

Bosses Who Micromanage Don’t Realize It Says More About Them Than The Workers

Published by Jenni Sidey

There are a lot of bad bosses out there, but micromanagers definitely take the cake as the worst to work for. (Like the manager I once had who made us show him every email before we sent it. Every. Single. Email.) Jobs are stressful and taxing enough without a boss breathing down your neck all the time. Of course, most bosses who micromanage would say that it’s employees’ ineptitude that forces them to be that way. These bosses usually create an environment that makes their team feel like they have to prioritize pleasing them over customers, though, which really defeats their purpose altogether. One man argued that in these situations, the employees aren’t the problem at all. A man thinks bosses who micromanage are bad at their jobs, and even bad at identifying the best talent for their teams. TikToker @bbebard, known as Ginger Jack on the app, had some pointed words for micromanagers, saying they shouldn’t be in a leadership position in the first place.  To illustrate his point, Ginger Jack used his own …

10 Things That Almost Immediately Drain The Energy Of Smart, Intuitive People

10 Things That Almost Immediately Drain The Energy Of Smart, Intuitive People

Published by Jenni Sidey

Intuition often takes self-trust. Intellect takes depth. But both of those things can waver in the face of fatigue. That’s why protecting their energy and prioritizing the kinds of activities that energize them are essential to well-being for intelligent people. The kinds of things that almost immediately drain the energy of smart, intuitive people aren’t just making them tired, but making their lives harder, robbing them of the kinds of thought processes they need to thrive. Here are 10 things that almost immediately drain the energy of smart, intuitive people 1. Unexpected messages and notifications KaterynaUKR | Shutterstock Our notifications literally drain energy reserves in our brain, causing all kinds of fatigue and overstimulation before we have a chance to realize what’s causing it. Even the mere presence of a phone distracts us from interactions and impairs our cognitive function, making it harder to entertain the kind of deep thought and connection intelligent people are regularly energized by. That’s usually why they leave their phones on silent or “DND” when they’re at home or working. …

Gen-X Learned The Hard Way That Company Loyalty Rarely Pays Off

Gen-X Learned The Hard Way That Company Loyalty Rarely Pays Off

Published by Jenni Sidey

My dad worked for the same company almost my whole life until he retired. Yes, he was actually able to retire — even though he was always an hourly blue-collar employee — because he’s a Baby Boomer. It wasn’t a bad deal. He worked his tush off, the company paid him for every hour he was there, and he was eventually able to retire. True, there was a highly contentious 1976 strike that I will never forget, but for the most part, both sides got what they needed from each other. As a burnt-out Gen-X worker, I was told: Show loyalty to work, and you’ll be rewarded — turns out, that was a scam Ravi Sharma / Unsplash I worked and didn’t protect my time at all, which I started thinking about when I read Toni Crowe’s excellent piece, Companies Are Having a Hella Time Getting Younger Generations to Work Unpaid Overtime. She notes that Millennials and Gen-Z employees refuse to make themselves available to their employers during their time off, and I’ve noticed the …

If People Keep Disrespecting You, These 9 Kind Traits Might Explain Why

If People Keep Disrespecting You, These 9 Kind Traits Might Explain Why

Published by Jenni Sidey

It really is true that the more kind and compassionate you are, the more you’ll have to deal with people trying to test how far your kindness goes. Some of the best people find themselves in constant situations where they’re facing off against some form of rudeness. Good-hearted people truly care about the feelings of others, so they never really stop to consider when they’re being mistreated themselves. When you’re a kind person, you tend to give second chances or overlook the way people act towards you altogether. If people keep disrespecting you, certain kind traits might explain why, and it’s not usually because you’re avoiding the conflict. In fact, you would just much rather let it slide off your back. Because this tactic also reveals some of your best qualities. If people keep disrespecting you, these 9 kind traits might explain why 1. You’re generous with your time KomootP | Shutterstock You’re the type of person that will drop everything to support your friends or even people in need. You’re someone that’s always readily …

Introverted People Usually Stop Tolerating 10 Things As They Get Older

Introverted People Usually Stop Tolerating 10 Things As They Get Older

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Introverts are misunderstood in our society that rewards extroversion. Even in the workplace, extroverts tend to be favored because these institutions are set up for them to succeed, compared to their introspective and quiet counterparts. While they may put up with a lot while they’re still growing and figuring out how to take care of themselves, introverted people usually stop tolerating certain things as they get older. They’re finally able to realize that in order to be happy, they don’t need to appease or hide their true selves. Introverted people usually stop tolerating 10 things as they get older 1. Being forced into social plans designerant | Shutterstock Whether it’s a lunch with their co-workers during the day or plans with friends on a Friday night after a draining week, as introverts get older, they start saying “no.” While it might seem simple, it’s these small boundaries amid everyday life that take a lot of internal discipline and self-worth to set, especially when it’s much more comfortable in the moment to go along with what …

Why Gen-Z Is Being Branded The ‘Strawberry Generation’

Why Gen-Z Is Being Branded The ‘Strawberry Generation’

Published by Jenni Sidey

Strawberry generation Gen-Zers like me, maybe this is the first time you heard this term. You might wonder what the strawberry generation is, who it refers to, and so on.  Well, the first time I heard this term, I felt offended because it has some bad connotations, and I will explain why. But first: Why is Gen-Z being branded The Strawberry Generation? Victor Miyata / Pexels The term ‘strawberry generation‘ refers to a generation of young people who are perceived as being fragile, easily bruised, or unable to handle pressure, similar to how strawberries can be easily damaged. This term often refers to Gen-Z, particularly in East Asia, like Taiwan, where the term originated. At a glance, you might see that this term has more negative connotations, but it’s actually a bit more complex. (Though easily bruised, strawberries sure are sweet, right?) The strawberry generation tends to be more vulnerable to life pressures. When facing challenges, they may feel more easily affected and stressed, and have a strong desire to stay in their own personal …

Men Who Can’t Stand Listening To Anyone But Themselves Talk Usually Share 11 Difficult Personality Traits

Men Who Can’t Stand Listening To Anyone But Themselves Talk Usually Share 11 Difficult Personality Traits

Published by Jenni Sidey

We’ve all heard complaints from our friends about their boyfriends or husbands who never seem to listen to them. It can even seem like men must be worse at listening as a whole. In fact, research has shown that men actually hear and interpret differently from women, with men listening with only one side of their brain while women listen with both. But there are some men who can’t ever seem to stand listening to anyone but themselves with any part of their brain at all, and that is usually far from their own difficult trait. These men are incredibly frustrating to deal with on multiple levels. It’s one thing if a man is truly eager to help you find a solution and can’t hold himself back, and quite another when he has absolutely zero interest in what others have to say at all. Men who can’t stand listening to anyone but themselves talk usually share 11 difficult personality traits 1. They’re narcissistic Africa Images via Canva Men who like to talk more than listen …

10 Things People Born In The 60s & 70s Don’t Get Offended By

10 Things People Born In The 60s & 70s Don’t Get Offended By

Published by Jenni Sidey

Gen Zers are often misunderstood. Yes, they have a laundry list of things that offend them, but they’re also committed, strong-willed, and passionate. But of course, there are some things younger generations get offended by that people born in the 60s and 70s just don’t care about one way or the other, and it represents a generational gap. They’re different, with certain formative experiences and upbringings, as well as different comfort levels and values. The specific things people born in the 1960s and 1970s just don’t usually get offended by: 1. Not having instructions at work Jacob Lund | Shutterstock Gen Xers grew up figuring things out on their own, which is why they’d prefer not to be guided and mentored constantly in environments like the workplace. They have a naturally entrepreneurial spirit, valuing their independence and autonomy, and condemning micromanagers and constant oversight. However, many young people are suffering from poor critical thinking skills at the hands of constant convenience and screen time. So, they may also struggle with independence in the workplace, without …