All posts tagged: Soulmate

My ‘Soulmate’ Relationship Was Really Just A Trauma Bond

My ‘Soulmate’ Relationship Was Really Just A Trauma Bond

Published by Jenni Sidey

My relationship with Brad had felt like a bullet going off. A tiny fire in an enclosed space that could change a life in a fraction of a second. In a brief period of dating, I’d gotten engaged, withdrawn from college in another state, moved in with my new fiancé, and been ghosted by my parents. It all seemed worth it, though, because Brad and I were “soulmates.” This was a stars-aligned, once-in-a-lifetime, meant-to-be love. We’d had the kind of connection I’d only dreamed of having with another, and I changed my entire life to make it work. Who cares what the cost is when it’s true love?  Until it no longer felt like true love. Our “passionate” love began to be peppered with “passionate” fights, in which “passionate” was just a nice way of saying “abusive.” I was ashamed of how and how often we fought, confused too, because why did this soulmate relationship sometimes feel so painful? My soulmate relationship was really just a trauma bond Blake Cheek / Unsplash+ A trauma bond forms when you confuse …

10 Ways To Tell Someone Is Your True Heartmate

10 Ways To Tell Someone Is Your True Heartmate

Published by Jenni Sidey

Finding a heartmate (like a soulmate, but better) is the number one priority for many people. I believe you have a lot of chances to do so. Your heartmate might not necessarily just be one person. There’s a reincarnation-based belief that I’ve always been fond of: The belief is that when you die, your soul shatters and breaks into pieces. Those pieces are randomly brought together with pieces of many other souls to form new souls and new people. So when you meet someone that you so strongly click with or find that person who is so clearly your heartmate, you’re finding pieces of your heart in them, and they’re finding pieces of their heart in you, and things will just naturally fall into place. The things that naturally fall into place when someone is your true heartmate: 1. You easily connect without trying Maybe you met through a mutual friend. You might have run into each other at the park. Maybe you were making eyes at each other at the bar. Whatever the case, …

The world’s first AI ‘SoulMate’ learns and adapts to you in real-time

The world’s first AI ‘SoulMate’ learns and adapts to you in real-time

Published by Jenni Sidey

A digital assistant that remembers how you talk, what you like, and how you react sounds simple in theory. In practice, it has been hard to pull off without sending your personal data to distant servers. You also must wait for a reply to come back. That is the gap a Korea Advanced Institute of Science and Technology (KAIST) team says it has started to close with a new AI semiconductor called SoulMate. This chip is designed to run a personalized large language model directly on a mobile device. Instead of treating every user the same, the chip is built to adapt in real time to an individual’s speech style, preferences, and feedback. Moreover, it keeps personal data on the device itself. The work was led by Professor Hoi-Jun Yoo of the Graduate School of AI Semiconductors. The school described the chip as the first AI semiconductor aimed at becoming a true “digital soulmate.” Unlike others, it is a system that learns from a user continuously rather than acting like a general-purpose chatbot with no …

11 Phrases A Man Only Says If He Feels Deep Soulmate-Level Love For You

11 Phrases A Man Only Says If He Feels Deep Soulmate-Level Love For You

Published by Jenni Sidey

You can definitely tell the difference between a man who likes you on a surface-level basis and a man who feels something so deeply for you that it truly impacts every facet of his life. Despite movies telling us that declarations of love should be over-the-top and lavish, sometimes the best way to show love is just through words that have meaning. A soulmate-level love shows up not only in how a man treats you, but also in the things that he reassures you about every single day. In fact, hearing affirming words from someone you trust can strengthen emotional security and even support clearer thinking and connection in a relationship. A man who feels a deep, soulmate-level love for you will speak this way to you even when he’s not trying to impress you. The words may sound incredibly simple, but you can practically feel the weight beneath them. What he says aligns with exactly how he shows up, and that kind of consistency is one of the clearest signs that his feelings are …

Goodbye, Dawson: James Van Der Beek was a generation’s soulmate

Goodbye, Dawson: James Van Der Beek was a generation’s soulmate

Published by Daniella Wilson

Get the latest entertainment news, reviews and star-studded interviews with our Independent Culture email Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter Get the latest entertainment news with our free Culture newsletter James Van Der Beek was just 20 years old when he began filming Dawson’s Creek in 1997 and still just about able to pass for the 15-year-old title character of the much-loved teen drama. With his golden hair and expressive eyes, Van Der Beek made an immediate impression and it wasn’t long before fans across the world were smitten. Dawson was the poetic, sensitive heart of the show, and when it came to an end six seasons later in 2003, viewers were heartbroken. In the final episode, Dawson’s younger sister Lilly asked him what a soulmate is. “It’s like a best friend, but more,” replies Dawson. “A soulmate is someone you carry with you forever.” In that way, Van Der Beek, who has died at the age of 48, became the soulmate of a generation. His fans had been braced for …

Love Marked By Fate: Soulmate Romance Books

Love Marked By Fate: Soulmate Romance Books

Published by Jenni Sidey

These soulmarks are preordained and can come in the form of a character’s name, a physical symbol found somewhere on the characters’ bodies (identical or complementary), a timer for when the characters will meet or when one will die, or even words spoken to each other upon meeting for the first time. The possibilities are endless. Like it or not, you have to admit this subtrope is a crafty idea to create tension and anticipation. While soulmarks are mostly preordained by the popular definition, there is also a type of soulmate mark that occurs after the main characters mutually accept their soulmate or mating bond, which can be a physical acceptance (often sex) and/or a psychological/spiritual acceptance. This type of soulmate mark can come in many forms as well. A popular example: a bite mark, often utilized in shifter romances. In paranormal romances and romantasies, this can also take the shape of a tattoo, scar, or symbol etched onto the main characters’ bodies. There are dozens of examples of these types of marks. Soulmarks are …