Work with each of these commitments for whatever time it takes:

I AT MY BEST: MY PERSONAL STANDARDS

1. I am caring for my body by a healthy lifestyle. I am caring for my mind and spirit by psychological work on myself when needed and by faithfulness to spiritual practices too.
2. I do my best to keep my word, honor commitments, and follow through on the tasks I agree to do.
3. I am making every effort to abide by standards of rigorous honesty, equity, and respect for diversity in all my dealings no matter how others act toward me.
4. I forego taking advantage of others because of what I perceive as their lower status, or because of their weakness, neediness, misfortune, or their attachment to or idealizing of me. If I am in a position of power or authority I do not misuse it or become corrupted by it. My question is not “What can I get away with?” but “What is the right thing to do for all concerned?”
5. I keep examining my conscience with true candor. I am taking searching inventories not only about how I may have harmed others, but also about how I may not have activated my potentials or shared my gifts, how I may still be holding on to prejudices or the need to retaliate, how I may still not be as loving, inclusive, and open as I can be.
6. I now measure my success by how much steadfast love I have, not by how much I have in the bank, how much I achieve in business, how much status I have attained, or how much power I have over others. The central—and most exhilarating—focus of my life is to show my love in the style that is uniquely mine, in every way I can, here and now, always and everywhere, no one excluded.
7. I am letting go of the need to keep up appearances or to project a false or overly-impressive self-image. Now I want to appear as I am, without pretense and no matter how unflattering. The joy of transparency has become more important to me than making the “right” impression.
8. I appreciate positive feedback. I also welcome any well-intentioned critique that shows me where I might be less caring, less tolerant, less open than I can be. When I am shown up as a pretender or confronted about being mean or inauthentic, I am not defensive but take it as information about what I have to work on.
9. I am not trying to ingratiate myself with people in order to get on their good side. Being loved for who I am has become more important—and more interesting—than upholding or advancing the ever-shaky status of my ego.
10. I have come to accept that fear is a given of life, at least for me. But there is one thing I can commit myself to: I will not let fear stop me from doing what I need to do or drive me to do what I don’t want to do.
11. I may meet or hear of someone who knows more than I, has more talent, or is more successful. I am letting go of envy and rivalry. Now I find myself admiring that person and trying to learn from him or her. I am accepting the given that we all have different gifts in different quantities. As I move from the envy that divides to the admiration that connects I feel a kinship with all my fellow humans, a joy indeed. I also notice that I can love myself and that I become more lovable too.
12. As I say yes to the reality of who I am, with pride in my gifts and unembarrassed awareness of my limits, I find myself living in accord with my own deepest needs, values, and wishes, not those of others.
13. I appreciate that whatever love or wisdom I may have or show comes not from me but through me. I give thanks for these encouraging graces and say yes to the stirring call to live up to them.

Adapted from Coming Home to Who You Are (Shambhala)